Boss not being very understanding about recurrence of endo

[Becky2889]

Hello

I had an laparoscopy in January to excise endo from bowels, rectum, uterus, and a large endometrioma which burst during surgery on my left ovary.

I was off for 7 weeks. I went back to work at the end of February and have had symptoms reoccurring in the last 3 weeks or so and have come back with a vengeance. 😞

Therefore I went to my GP and the advice from the consultant was to try Mirena coil and then zoladex injection if that doesn’t work. So in the last month I have had 2 drs appointments and one phone appointment whilst I have been at work.

I work as a district nurse. I have my appointment to have my coil fitted in the next couple of weeks. I asked to have a special leave day for this as I don’t fancy having to go back to work after this. My boss has now informed me after not getting back to me for multiple days that I can only have a half day special leave and if I don’t want to come back to work take annual leave for the afternoon as she is “doing me a favour because it doesn’t qualify for a whole day off”. And she also mentioned that I have had to many appointments recently with the drs and dentist. I always book these so I only have to leave one hour early and I work my lunch etc. I need an endoscopy and have an ultrasound coming up I’m worried she won’t allow these either.

What are anyone else’s experiences getting days off for treatment from work etc? I am getting the treatment to help symptoms so I don’t need time off sick!!

So stressful and upsetting

Thanks in advance

Becky x

[cmbxm]

If you have an appointment and the hospital letter etc, they can’t stop you! You’d think district nurses would be more understanding, If she tries and stop you go take a half day or what not out of your annual leave, how you use your annual leave is up to you and she can’t decide what qualifies under it etc as it’s your time to take off how you want to take it off. If it gets any worse talk to your union rep or whoever her boss is x

[Alessia]

That is beyond anything I've heard before... What the hell is wrong with these people? First of all she has no right to prevent you from something like that. It is quite the opposite. You have the right to use your days off the way you want to. My husband leaves his job for weeks when we have to go to Ukraine. What the hell? I think you should talk to some greater supervisor. Who in your work is a greater authority than your boss? She cannot do this to you. Not even in her dreams. Also don't let her make you believe her lies... She isn't doing you a favor. That is utter nonsense! I really wish you find a way out of this mess! God bless you!

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I am sorry to hear you are such difficulties with your manager ; it is shocking to hear when working in a healthcare profession I’d think they’d be more understanding.

I have very similar issues with my business manager (I work at a school) and I have recurring endo ; I am having my third lap considered urgent in 13 months a week on Monday. I was so paranoid I got my endo nurseto do this to write to the school.

She agreed.

Don’t know if you have done this join the union ASAP they will fight for you; you are legally entitled to hospital appointments they are not allowed to refuse those. 👍Re the doctors appointments I think they expect you to take those in your own time but sounds like you are doing that 👍 I recently had to see a dentist to pull two teeth out which was emergency but I couldn’t get paid for it; my dentist is only open mon-fri 8-5!! What use is that to working people 😡 I had to take it off unpaid.

They cannot discriminate against you for having a ongoing health condition. Can you contact occupational health; they might be able to get you better support and implement a plan with your unreasonable manager 😘 I’d also state stress makes endo worse 👍

Good luck and I hope the surgery goes well ❤️ remember your health is more important than anything xoxo