Night out tomorrow

[tinkerbell971]

So tomorrow night I am overcoming my fears from the past 6 months and finally going on a night out. It’s my boyfriends birthday and I feel bad if I don’t go out with him. However I don’t want to ruin his night moaning that I’m in pain etc I just want him to enjoy his birthday night out not having to listen to me moan.

Does anyone know any way to reduce the pain on a night out because I know I can’t take painkillers while drinking. I’m wearing a baggy dress so I don’t need to be conscious of my bloat and I’m going to relax all day tomorrow.

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Good for you 👏🏼 honestly just got and let your hair down! I remember one night it was my friends birthday and I had to go the pain was just on another level. I don't normally drink and I had few cocktails that night and the pain actually was reduced. I don't want to condone drinking as something helps because I don't know if it was that, what actually helped. But after a few drinks I was fine and I actually had one of the best nights I wasn't drunk or stumbling around! Also another thing don't go with the fear of you will be in pain and your night is going to be bad because if you do, then will affect your night. Just go with a positive mind and have fun 💃🏼 after all we do deserve it x

[MaloushkaPat]

Hiya! I found it really difficult to go out too but I have made a promise with my boyfriend that I would not let endo control my life (even though some days I just do not have the choice but to stay at home curling in bed with a hot water bottle dosed up on painkillers...).

When I do go out, I always carry with me a little make up case in my bag which actually contains painkillers that I can take whilst drinking (i.e. paracetamol and ibuprofen) if I need to take the edge off it and also sticky heat pads that I can just put on should the pain come up. Just knowing that I have these with me is like a little comfort blanket and reassures as I know I have some way to relieve my pain on the go if needed. But as per the previous reply, my main advice is to get your hair down and try to enjoy the night without worrying about it! Have a couple of drinks and see how you get on! I always try to have a glass of water with every alcoholic drink I have, I found it helps the pain (but also the potential hangover the next day - as I don't drink very often at all I am a very light weight when it comes to hangovers!) And finally, if it turns out you are really in pain and need to go home, at least you would have tried and made the effort and I'm sure your boyfriend and friends will appreciate!

Have fun! x

[Simo7]

I think my advice would be the same as the other ladies. Do what you're doing anyway: resting all day before the evening, don't stress about what may/may not happen and take low dose pain killers to take the edge off as soon as you get an inkling of an ache. Also, the heat pads for back, tummy & shoulder are always a blessing. You need to have a mental break from the on going monotony of being in the pain zone. It does a world of good mentally to just try and live a normal life even for a few hours. Enjoy! (as much as you can)

[tinkerbell971]

I didn’t end up going... I had a meltdown because none of my going out clothes fitted me due to my endo belly. I really feel bad but I managed to go to the local pub instead of going to clubs. At least I made a bit of effort 😩

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Oh no 😔 I have started buying baggy dresses I can wear with tights if I'm ever in a situation like this so maybe start doing that so you are equipped for a night like that!!