Just discovered this forum this evening following a gyny appointment and think the collective experience and advice from you all is invaluable. So to give you a bit of background, I'm 28 and had severe pain and issues with my periods since they started (age 14.) As a teenager I had days off school every month without fail; the first two days always being the worst. As I grew older they settled somewhat, due to being on the pill I believe. But after a few years the pill caused me plenty of new problems (we just can't win, right?) I tried every pill available I'm sure after that, and none agreed with me so I haven't touched them since I was about 23.
The pain, sickness, bowel issues etc returned and have progressively got worse; peaking over the last couple of years. I managed to get an ultrasound (turned into an internal, eww!) about a year ago and was told I had a hemorrhagic cyst on my ovary and it was nothing to worry about. The symptoms really increased in severity after this. Like many of you it seems, I've basically nagged and nagged at my GP and various health professionals to help me, eventually being referred to a gyny. So I had the appointment this evening, he did another internal ultrasound and he says all the signs and symptoms point to endometriosis (obviously cannot be sure unless a laparoscopy has been performed.)
He had previously asked about whether I had planned to have children soon; I explained that my partner and I ideally would like to complete some work on our new home, get married and then start trying. So we were thinking in 2-3 years. Having said this, we could cope just about financially if we had a child now, we would just prefer to have certain things in place first. Because of this we have had what we call a 'if it happens, it happens' sort of attitude over the last couple of years, but as far as I am aware, I haven't fallen pregnant (I do suspect I did and miscarried in the summer, but that's another story for another day!)
Which leads me to the gyny's suggestions this evening; he has basically told me to either have the laparoscopy now and possibly treatment at the time if needed, or try and fall pregnant as he says it can help to resolve the issues. Online I've seen mixed reviews of the latter option. He said that if we were planning on trying in the not so distant future anyway, why not try in the next year as it may help 'reset everything.' He also said it was worth trying first, then if we have difficulty, go for laparoscopy after this.
My main concern is my ability to fall pregnant; we desperately want children and would start trying immediately if we knew delaying would risk our chances of conceiving. However in an ideal scenario, we'd finish the work on our house and get married first (having been brought up a Catholic, it does feel quite important to me to be married first.) Given so many of you have so much more experience and knowledge of the condition, what would you ladies advise if you can? I know each woman is individual and her decisions should be based on her circumstances; I'm just hoping your genuine experiences can help me reach a balanced decision.
Sorry for such a lengthy post, my mind is swimming! Any thoughts/advice would be so much appreciated! xx