Pain during and after intercourse

[sarah2105]

Hi again

I'm just wondering if anyone with endo has experienced pain after intercourse? One of my symptoms is pain during intercourse, but recently i've started to get a burning sensation after intercourse too?

Any comments would be greatly appreciated

xx

[flossyk]

Hi there,

I get pain during and after intercourse. They're like shooting crampy pains through my abdomen and womb area, sometimes worse than others. During intercourse it's like being rubbed inside with a cheesegrater or bit of sand paper, (sorry, not a great image that, is it!)

I've mentioned this to my GP and Gynae consultant, but they just seemed to think this is all part of Endo. Not very helpful, but then, not really their fault.

When you say burning, do you men in your womb area or is it more like a cystitis type burning? I'd have a chat with your GP to a. be on the safe side and b. get it in your notes.

Hope you're feeling a bit better now.x

[nicola21]

Hi I also get pain with intercourse usually after and it's a dull ache/ cramping in my abdomen. Sometimes it's horrendous and downstairs often feels like I've been kicked lol very similar feeling to when the head is engaged at the back end of pregnancy (if you've experienced that) x

[Impatient]

Aside from endo and adhseions causing sex pain - are you allergic to your partners sperm? I'm not kidding - try using condoms and see if the burning sensation is resolved by not mixing body fluids. Or if you use latex condoms - try non-latex varieties, also if you use lube then try a different formula to see if there is a reaction to the lube.

It might simply be normal pain experienced with endo ladies when the adhesions are stretched and torn which does hurt for some time after the injury takes place.

Or if you have cervical erosion - which is an inflamed irritation of the cervix caused by heavy periods - bit like a nappy rash from urine burns and irritates and hurts skin, then avoid hurting yourself by having vaginal penetration and explore the many other ways of being intimate that don't hurt you.

Sex should be pain free and fun. If something hurts too much then don't force yourself into a state of pain. You willonly grow to resent your partner and get increasingly frustrated that sex is becoming a nightmare you coulddowithout.

Without wishing to be too graphic, oral, anal, and whole host of other options are worth a try to see if you can find a mutually satisfying solution that doesn't leave you in agony.

Sometimes a change of position may be all it takes - like you being on top facing his toes is recommended for ladies with a retroverted uterus as an example. Explore your options and you may find you can both enjoy each others company without suffering in agony during and afterwards. Good Luck.

[Avatar90]

Hi Sarah,

I used to have the same problems also. It was so bad and traumatising that I had to break off with the guy I was with at the time and didn't have sex for another 2 years, it was that horrible. My gp advised that it was the cysts on my ovaries that were causing the problems. Thankfully I had my 2nd lap, and was put on the pill back to back, to stop my periods, therefore suppressing the development of more cysys.

That seemed to work for me. It was still a bit difficult with my current bf but it got better. Also there are still some positions that are too painful till now (girl on top, doggy, etc. Sorry for being so graphic) but there are other positions we try that work for both of us. So try different position, using loads of lube, foreplay, etc

Also try to relax, because anticipating pain wil make it much worse. My bf has mentioned sometimes that he feels me tense up sometimes without thinking, so he always has to remind me to relax and not tense up so much which will only worsen the pain.

Also, some women from my support groupmentioned that tthey've taking painkillers before sex and that reduces the pain. I havent tried that yet but you can give it a whirl.

Hope that helps.

[Pinkprincess205]

The burning after sex was my first symptom of endo, that was the thing I brought up with my doc, was seen at gum clinic all ok. Then gynea n she said it's very common with endo. I'm also quite tight now, even using tampax hurts like hell.

[SEB88]

hi, i too sometimes get pain on intercourse with a burning sensation during and after sex. i have endo but also a lining on my cervix, which is being removed when i have my lap in 6 weeks, my consultant seems to thing endo and this lining is the problem. have you had an internal and a colposcopy, i know it is not the nicest thing but it has got to the bottom of my problem. i hope this helps