Intercourse question..

[Jadeywiles]

Good evening ladies,

Sorry if this is to much detail but trying to decide weather to go back to the doctors or not! I was diagnosed a while ago now with endo.. hospital were really good got me straight in removed a lot and I walked away a pretty happy women considering!

The month after surgery the bleeding was better but the pain was pretty bad since then the bleeding has now got horrendous to the point were I bleed out and pass out! Not a pretty site.. but now my sex life is going down hill also! I’ve never had pain during intercourse but now it’s getting close to the point of crying! My partner is very understanding but not really the point.. trying for a baby which is proving difficult with the pain..

so what I’m trying to say is... has anyone previously had no pain during intercourse and then sudden starts? The pain is in my left ovary area like stabbing

Any help so so so very much appreciated

[Bobbiejane28]

Hi jade ,

Honey i fully understand exactly what your are going through I've been in this rut for over six years! The pain is unbearable and when I've had sex my thighs so red hot and shooting pains to from my pelvic into my ovaries and what only i can describe is like a squeezing and then a releasing pain i get in my ovaries area .. I feel instantly sick and double over into my knees and most times i can't go in certain positions because it hurts so much. Right i have endometriosis and I have four cysts on both of my ovaries and I had to have my tubes removed comppetely. But if it's all of a sudden thing for you and you don't know why and because it sounds just like what I went through and still am, is either your endometriosis is s active and you either have scar tissue on your wall of your pelvic or bowel area of possibly cysts or if not none of them, water infarction or p.i.d that could be flaring up your endo. If I'm wrong on either of them, then go to to your doctors and they need to refer you to hospital again, and you need to request a laparoscopy for them to find out what's going on and why your having these symtoms. I'm so sorry darling it's like this for you, I feel for you. Your lucky to have a partner like you say, as I'm lucky to have my fiance supporting me. But you just feel hopeless and useless and think they going to leave you because you can't have sex like you want too , my heart goes out to you. Keep positive and strong and try and get a hot bath a hot water bottle and try and relax as much as you can. But definitely go doctors as soon as you can sweetie. Take care xx

[Jadeywiles in reply to Bobbiejane28]

Bless you! I love how positive you are considering the pain you go through! And I’m so sorry to hear that you sound like you have really good support and sometimes that’s the only thing that gets you through the shit times.. have you been given medication to help? Even with the pain?

I’ve been on and off antibiotics since my last lap! Got BV, UTI and thrush one after the other for 2 months the tablets make me sick, hot sweats, sleep on and off and not eat.. and my doctor keeps saying thats all I can have.. (think that’s a lie tbh) I like to think I’m as positive as you with life I go to work when I feel crap I pop pills when needs must! But having down days more lately.. trying for a baby for over a year and it’s heart braking that the “times” you need to have intercourse is your most painful time!

Think a hot bottle and an early night will fix my issues for now.. thank you so much for your advise and kind words

[Bobbiejane28 in reply to Jadeywiles]

Your more than welcome, and to be very honest I was at my lowest when I found this page, I was and still am struggling through depression from this horrendous diagnosis we have. I will let you in a secret honey I fail most times to keep positive and strong because it's took over my life this endo. And it can knock you off your feet most days. For the past 5 years I've been on painkillers and I hate knowing I've taken them for that long but it's what's led me to do, I take zapain, witch is cocodomal as that's the only painkillers that helps to maintain it but also makes my bowels difficult for me also. Before I got diagnosed with this i already had my two children , so I really hope you get your baby your wanting and I hope you get to maintain your pains and problems to gain what you really want. I know a lot of natural herbal remedies help and certain foods does help but also some foods trigger endometriosis off too, it's strange i know but that may just be my body. If your partner can, ask him if he can relax you by a massage before you do anything with each other, or maybe try some relaxing numbing gel, or Evan deep heat muscle relief around the area on your pelvic before hand. I'm just suggesting everything I've tried. It's so frustrating i know, but never give up, I've been there done it and it only makes your endometriosis worse. Stress definitely triggers mine. Xxx

[coffeemom]

I would say more than likely you have cyst in your ovaries! I have them also and I completely understand the pain you are describing. I have heard from my coworker who has had many issues, she has a cyct rupture and she said the pain is so bad that she passed out. Most of the time when we get cyst they rupture and we do not feel it happening because they are so small, if you are blacking out you need to see tour Dr. she ended up having to have her ovary removed. She was still able to conceive and become pregnant after that also.

[ricegirl]

I think there is a new drug in the U.S. for endo pain. Not sure where you live but perhaps check it out. Abbvie makes it.

It is hard to get pregnant with endo. I ended up doing In-vitro.