Painful intercourse

[Mewbookitty]

Hi all, is it common to have sharp vaginal pain during intercourse with endo as well as deep pain?

Me and my partner attempted intercourse earlier but it just resulted in sharp pain located more in the entrance/vagina which I could feel towards my tail bone.

[Shaz0613]

Hi Iv experienced this too. I feel sick now when we do try. It's like I don't want to anymore 😐 I feel the pain and get upset and angry and we don't continue

[Peepa]

It sounds familiar, its not easy.😞 Most people do not have a clue how this condition affects you physically, emotionally as well as your relationship.

I feel for you. I hope you have a supportive partner who understands you are in pain and does not blame you for not wanting to do it.

[Mewbookitty]

Thanks for replying ladies I appreciate it. I didn't used to but now luckily I have a very understanding partner who is very kind so, I hope the situation is the same for you both also. Nothing worse than being made to feel guilty for something you can't help.

In the past I only really experienced deeper pain but since my lap last June everything feels worse down there 😕

[nicole_44]

I suffer from pain with intercourse also. Mine is a really awful deep pain that makes it unbearable and i cannot carry on.

It can be so frustrating but its good that you have an understanding and caring partner. Dont feel bad for it- you cant help the pain you feel.

Take care :)xx

[Georgina78]

Hi Racheymon I've also had painful intercourse & examinations (worse at certain times of the month it seems) and during a recent internal exam at a private appointment re:our IVF a nodule of endo was found in my vaginal canal which has never been discovered before, despite having had a laparoscopy and numerous internals for IVF. The doctor said this would explain the pain, and also the aches I feel running down my legs (not sure if you get this too)

If you have a supportive partner I think it's really important to keep communicating so he can understand as best he can that it's not him/not that you don't want to etc but how it feels for you xx

[Hidden in reply to Georgina78]

Were you able to feel the nodule yourself?

My physiotheprist found a bump where my tailbone is through my vaginal canal, I've felt it myself and she said there's a bump but I'm not sure if it was just a pulled muscle and I misheard her.

Racheymon you should try pelvic floor physiotherpy, it might be due to overly tensed up muscles and nerves because when your in pain you clench up but after being in pain for so long you become permantly tensed which means you have an inability to relax. If your pelvic floor doesn't relax not only can your partner go deeper (your pelvic floor is too short) but it also doesn't 'open-up'. When I first started physio it hurt a lot b/c my physiotheprist wasn't even able to fit a finger but then it's gotten better. She was also worried I had almost developed vaginamus which is where the vaginap muscles contract involuntary before penetration. You can actually check this out by looking at a mirror before penetrating yourself and see if you clench up.

[cristinaz in reply to Hidden]

thanks Hannah for the suggestion, I am trying to find a specialist in the UK, London area

Any suggestions from the UK ladies?

I am open to try this cause Doctor suggestions so far have been completely useless, and he keeps suggesting I experience pain because I am stressed and I work too much.... even if he knows how bad was my endo situation cause he is the one who performed the 2 laparoscopy

[Hidden in reply to cristinaz]

I had a doctor just like him, some people, I can't reccomend anyone on here and I'm not in the uk but there's an endo site on Facebook where you can ask for different doctors.

Also google reviews, there's plenty of review sites for doctors.

Can you ask for a referral to a BSGE centre?

[cristinaz in reply to Hidden]

I have found a clinic not far from where I live I will need referral from the GP to trigger private health insurance to cover it. Cant wait!!! may be the solution finally

thanks again!

[Mewbookitty]

I think your onto something, I check for my coil threads weekly and I've found it's very tight down there like i'm tensing up involuntary? I've never heard of these physio before but it sounds interesting, i will look into it thank you! I'm on Merseyside so i'm not sure if we have anything like that here?

Also, anyone sometimes suffer with almost like electric shock type pain? I've had pain today mostly in my tailbone area and i went to stand up and it felt like an electric shock on my pubic bone!

[Hidden in reply to Mewbookitty]

Tending up involuntarily is due to an overactive pelvic floor which can never relax, you need to see a physiotherapist so they can teach you how to release the muscles and intense them.

Google overactive pelvic floor, you can find resources, articles, what others have done, and YouTube videos.

[Mewbookitty in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your help!

[Hidden in reply to Mewbookitty]

Your welcome

I hope everything gets better.

A few tips are to try not to wear tampons since you give your muscles something to clench around and them shape around therefore making them tighter.