Extremely tired after op last Friday..

[charlotte88]

Hi,

I had my second lap last Friday, first was 2011, I really don't remember feeling this tired last time. I have two children under 5, and I'm really struggling. Taking them to school and nursery this morning was a huge effort, I came back and couldn't do anything for hours. I'm currently a student so I'm off university due to the op, but I was only expecting to feel off for a few days.. I'm the most drained I've ever felt. I also have pleurisy since the op, but that seems to be easing a little now. Any advice / similar experience? Feeling really low

[Diagnosis21]

Hi Hun i also have a two year old and wasn't so bad after the lap tiredness wise, but its been 2weeks since i had my Zoladex implant and omg the head aches, the tiredness and the pain is worse by far. Just cant get over the tiredness though like you I'm struggling taking my son nursery and playing with him ect. I feel awful but I'm just constantly tired and want to sleep all the time. I haven't yet found a cure other than taking a few pro plus to help wake me up but that will be my last option. I'm going to see what my gynea says on Thursday. Hope you manage to find something that works for you Hun. Its also been three weeks since my lap.

[charlotte88]

Aww thanks Hun, I hope u get some answers, it's just so horrible isn't it. I can cope with pain, but being tired takes over me completely , then I get irritable which I hate and short where I would normally just shrug it off, my house needs a good clean and tidy, but I just start something and have to sit down! X

[Impatient]

Have you got a mum or mum-in-law or sister than can come and stay and help out for a week or two to give you rest and recovery time?

Or take the kids off your hands for a treat holiday while mummy gets better?

Perhaps bribe the kids with an extra christmas treat if they behave themselves really well at grandmas.

Or is there another mum or dad of their school chums that you could call on for help taking the kids to and from school for a few days- as they are heading that way anyway, it doesn't take a huge effort to add an extra child or two to the journey. You could always offer to return the same favour for them when you are feeling better.

Ask for help if you need it. No shame in that at all. People won't offer to help if they think you are coping.

[KJax]

Hi it took me about 2 weeks after my lap before i could get up and properly move around - if you can get some help with your kids take as much time as you need to rest and relax and try not to overdo it

[Diagnosis21]

I Hun iv currently got my grandmother in-law looking after my little boy in the afternoons during the week as my partner works and that helps massively i can have a power nap if needed, or just chill out and rest whilst watching some tv. Also if the housework is irritating as it does me, try and do just little bits a time and with the ironing try and do it sat down and then it should be easier to accomplish. And yes this tiredness is really annoying me too. Iv always been able to manage and do everything and now iv got to ask for help i have to allow my partner to do the cleaning, and have someone else look after my little one. You do feel awful by having someone look after them instead of you (especially if it been you being their main carer all their life), it does get easier on that score i promise you just start to think to yourself, right this is the best thing for me and my child/children, they will get full attention and care and i wont be being irritable with them and i can just either relax and rest or have a sleep and you start to feel easier as well because you know you need to get better and 100% right for your children, to benefit both you and them.

I hope you find some middle ground Hun its awful today my son is in nursery until 1 and then my grandmother in-law is picking him up and having him and giving him his tea for me as I'm really struggling today. Plus iv also got to prepare for my tooth being pulled tomorrow morning then we have the EYFS and my health visitor coming for my son, then the day after iv got my first gynea appointment. I'm also going seeing my great nan in hospital in the middle of all of this as i have been told she wont see Christmas this year (she is 91 bless her) so i want to see her sooner rather than later just incase she goes earlier than expected.

[charlotte88]

Aww it sounds like you have a lot going on

I do have people who can help, but I do hate asking, and I tend to just try to keep going, I did my first online shop yesterday (food) and had delivered, that's one thing I couldn't have done. I do feel a little better today, I decided to have a shower last night dry my hair etc whilst I had half an hour to myself, and this morning I feel a little better for it, day on the sofa with films and cuddles with my 3 year old sounds like a good plan tho, I'm very lucky she tends to keep herself entertained playing with her dolls etc..

I hope your feeling better soon xx