A fresh start

I'm saying this out loud for the first time. I was doing really well and had completed W8R2 on Feb 25th then I found out my partner had been having an affair and my whole motivation to do anything just stopped. I've not run since then and I'm so angry with myself for letting my achievements slip. I'm going to start again today and this time will get through to graduation as I'm not going to let his selfishness take away my potential to do this for myself. 

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  • Bless you, I am sad that you have had such a shocking time but feel very proud that you took time out to re think and have decided to get back on the track you were doing so well on.  Looking forward to hearing your news

  • Thank you. I took the decision to write to this group as I know how much encouragement I've had in the past. I'm doing it for the team as well as myself - which helps... 

  • I am going through a running rough patch with my running just because my legs are achy (maybe because I did some skipping last week) and have put on a few pounds too but because of my running family, I am not giving up either, let's do it!

  • Let's do it!

  • Oh goodness - you poor thing!  I hope running will help you cope.  This happened to me some 26 years ago now, so I can understand the emotions.  I wallowed and drank a lot, until someone booted me up the backside and told me I would lose everything else if I didn't sort myself out.  It's important to keep your self esteem any way possible, and keeping fit and healthy can only help that.  Good luck x

  • Thank you - that's exactly it for me too

  • Oh, you poor thing. But now you've got your head sorted out a bit you may find that your body will follow. You will probably have some residual fitness from February - you were nearly there. So it might be easier this time. You can do it. You want to do it obviously and that's half the battle! Good luck, keep posting!

  • Thank you!

  • Do more of everything that makes you feel good. I found such a sense of achievement in progressing through the programme and it always gave me a buzz to have made it through another run or another week. Life and well people throw really hard stuff at ussometimes and although it can make us feel sad, angry or frustrated, underneath weare still the same person, whatever they do and whatever happens. That means we can pass through it in time and come out the other end, still ourselves, happy and even stronger. Completing c25k is a great step, it also means other people are not determining what happens in your life. You determine to run, you go out there and do it, you are in control of your fitness and it is great to have that sense of being in contril of your life when other people have been messing it up.

  • Thank you so much. I've just got home from W1R1 in the rain - and already feel better

  • You go girl! This is something you are doing for yourself and you will feel so much better and stronger for it. We'll be cheering you on!

  • Thank you

  • Fantastic job on saying it out loud for the first time. The healing starts now. Trust me I have been there it took months to actually tell anyone and it was a very hard thing to do. Now you start move on, allow yourself to get angry, cry and rant, there's a lot of crap to get rid of. Put all of it in a box (not an actual box you understand) and put it down behind you. Some days you may want to open it and have a look but, eventually, you will ignore it for so long it rots and becomes irrelevant. That worked for me. Sending hugs and good vibes to you. Keep on running 👍

  • Thank you. There was something in me that knew you guys on here would 'get it'

  • Brave you. Well done for deciding enough is enough and its your life to take back control of and live how you want to. I'm sure you'll find the programme easier this time round. Too 😀

  • Thank you

  • Spoken like a fighter! You go out there and do this for yourself because it sounds to me like you are picking yourself up and getting back out there! Lots of luck🙂

  • Thank you

  • I'm sorry to read you had such a disappointing experience but... Hey, it's his loss and your gain.

    I'm sure you'll get to the end of the programme, this time and we all will be be cheering for you along the way. 😉

  • Thank you

  • You're welcome. 😉

  • Go for it Susojan.☺ You are back in your trainers and doing this for you. Run like the wind (only slowly and steady of course)... only good things will come out of this..

    Keep posting. Big hug.x

  • Thank you for the support, it really makes a difference 

  • Run for you. Forget about him, and run for you...I know it's easier said than done, but just for those 30 minutes, if nothing else, forget about him and make it about you. This programme is about so much more than running, it's about taking care of yourself. Also, it doesn't hurt that the best revenge is to be happy, and all the endorphins will certainly help you get there. It's his loss, as secan said, and we're all here to cheer you on.

  • Thank you so much

  • You poor thing, and I hope running helps you find space to recover some of that equilibrium.  Good luck.

  • Thank you

  • go for it, you can do this for you as that is all that matters and hopefully the focus of running will keep you going, its so much more than just exercise for the body, it's good to keep us sane too!

  • I couldn't agree more, thank you

  • have 'followed' you as want to see you progress through this!( Btw this happened to me too, a long long time ago but I never told a soul and that's not healthy, even if its just a forum its better to get it out)

  • Thanks for your support 

  • I also found out something shocking about my partner, which turned my life upside down.

    Fast forward two years and I was depressed, on medication and barely functioning. I wasn't coping at all!

    Then one day I just decided to start walking. I would wait until he was out of the house and then go for a long, lonely but calming walk. I started to get itchy feet for more, hence the C25K!

    He doesn't like it one bit, he makes snarky comments and tries to belittle me, but I'm stronger now and finally have something I enjoy doing. I'm starting to believe this girl definitely can! It really is a mind changer.

    We'll be running with you in spirit, you can get your life back and one day you'll realise he did you a huge favour and you're well rid of him. Keep in touch, x

  • Wow, that's inspirational! Thank you

  • I want to wish you both all the very best Susojan and LonelyWalker . Big hugs to you both ((( )))

    Don't ever let anyone dull your sparkle, do this for YOU . I hope you both find strength and inner peace xxx

  • Thank you so much

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