Mum's passing

[Cmbs]

It has been over five months since mum died. I am reminded of mum an dad (who also died) every day. It is not easy. I'm not sure I will get over it.🙁😞😣🫤

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello Cmbs

Welcome to our Community.

It’s a painful journey for sure but it is very early days, your emotions are still very raw.

We never actually get over close loses, but we do learn to live with them in our hearts and memories.

Please don’t try to rush things along, it takes time, meanwhile, accept support from wherever it’s offered.

We are always here to support you and have really friendly members who have been through this and will support you too,

Sending support

Chloe x

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Bless ya. You will find it easier one day and look back with smiles rather than tears. Chloe is right, you don’t get over it but learn to live with your loss. I lost my dad only last Wednesday so I’m still in the whirlwind of phone calls and flowers but my husband died 11years ago and the loss I feel there is so different to the grief now. Talk about them, keep them in your heart, they’ll never be gone. We’re all here 24/7. Take care 🦊x

[kenster1 Volunteer]

Hi I`m sorry to hear of your dear mothers passing like you I lost both parents wasn`t sure how I`d manage but I`m still here.It`s never about getting over it as we never do it`s about the process of grieving and healing.

[Caza]

Hi, as my friends on here have said you never ‘get over it’ when you lose someone close. You just learn to live along side. I think I was fortunate that when my mum died I was able to think of her & smile. She wasn’t a great mother as in the traditional sense but she was a lot of fun. Yes I was sad but mainly I was able to smile. I know my mum wouldn’t have wanted me to be taken over by grief she’d of been disappointed in me if that had happened. I try to install that believe into my own children. Yes be sad but enjoy your life & think of me & smile.

Look after yourself take care.

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I agree with you . I’m in the ‘acute phase’ of grief, losing my dad last week and that is just how he’d feel. He’d want me to think of him and smile but difficult at the mo, I’ll get there, as will you Cmbs. Take care all 🦊x

[NeuroSeeker]

I lost my mom about 4.5 years ago. I find the grief has shifted over the years. It is still very overwhelming on some days. I try to not dwell, but I'm also not trying to force my way through the forest.