I just can't delete my friend from my messages now she has passed.....

[chloe40]

It would upset me so much, yet I see her face every time I need to send a message and that too makes me upset.

Is there a solution to this?

Chloe

[Skyp]

Hi chloe.hard isn't it.must admit I have three freinds that have passed and I can't bring myself to delete xx

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Skyp]

You're right there Skyp but it's really difficult and of course I re-read the messages which makes it harder x

[Caza]

Can you archive them? So that you only see them & her if you choose to.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

Of course Caza

How daft am I?

I didn't give that a thought, that way I can look if and when I want to.

x

[Caza in reply to chloe40]

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[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to chloe40]

can you upload them to your computer in case your phone gets lost or broke.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Ooh, that’s a good idea Kenny kenster1 I really wouldn’t have thought of that!

How are you Kenny?

x

[chloe40 Administrator]

Thanks for your reply Hidden

All good advice.

I think it's because it's fairly recent and her photo always takes me by surprise when I want to message someone.

Sending {{{hugs}}}

Chloe x

[chloe40 Administrator]

I'm not sure I could cope with the voice of any of my close loved ones that have passed Hidden that would be too much for me!

x

[chloe40 Administrator]

Thanks Hidden

I’m really sorry you and your Mam have had so many losses recently and I hope your neighbour recovers after going through such trauma.

You’re so right, when we’re older, it’s natural to hear of many losses but it doesn’t come any easier 😒

X

[chloe40 Administrator]

Oh wow, that’s beautiful, thank you twinkle!

x

[Turnipgirl]

After my father died back in 2021 it took me a while to accept that by deleting his details it was permanent and forever and it took me a few weeks to do that.

I find time helps with things like that myself.

[Turnipgirl]

This lunchtime it's a pub lunch out which we haven't done for ages at the Fox and Hounds pub nearby which we are really looking forward to.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Thank you Turnipgirl much appreciated x

[Turnipgirl in reply to chloe40]

18th April it was 3 years since my father died at 11.30am that Sunday morning and we did our usual 11.30am lunch to celebrate his life in spite of some people saying I am sick for doing parties to celebrate the life of a man who abused me!

One evening I was in the concourse at the hospital and there was a father with his kids going to see their new baby at the maternity unit and it brought back memories of when I was 6 and my father took myself and my sister to the old maternity hospital to see our new baby which was an old victorian building which has been pulled down!

When I was 19 I had gone to the old Victorian maternity hospital to see a friend who had just had a baby not having been there since I was 6 and the place appeared to have shrunk and another friend said its because you've grown up!

[Sandradsn]

I know how you feel Chloe,its very emotional. I keep my loved ones in my contacts on my phone still, I can't delete them.I have a lovely short video clip of my mum talking to my little granddaughters on my phone too.Its heartbreaking and comforting at the same time😥

[chloe40 Administrator]

Yes. I agree Sandradsn

I imagine it could be comforting sometime in the future as long as it’s not recent, as that could be really uncomfortable.

My goodness, we never had this problem years ago, I really am showing my age !

x

[Turnipgirl]

Today I really really enjoyed my pub lunch out as we hadn't done one for ages and managed to sit outside in the beer garden as well and saw a friend from the Willows pub who was having lunch out with family who says he doesn't bother with the Willows now and prefers the Fox and Hounds as no one is rude there like they were at the Willows making comments on what people are eating as he thought it was extremely bad manners when that man was making those rude comments to me about how much I was eating and in protest decided not to bother with the Willows again like us saying they are cheap at any price!

[Downinil]

Hi Twinkly! You have made me smile with your post about the spirit of loves eternal life. Beautiful way to think about our past loved ones. It’s such a comfort to think in that way. Thank you.

[Greyone]

Maybe there is an alternative to deleting. if you immortalized her details in a picture or photograph. You could also export her contact details as a .vcf file and save them in you phone in the safe or hidden folder.

If you have her photograph why not make a collage with a txt of phone style message and have it framed as a way to express your creativity and relationship?

Hope some of this helps.

G1

[chloe40 Administrator]

My goodness, how creative you are Greyone you have some amazing ideas here,

Thank you 🙏