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I am grateful that my part of the world saw nothing more than a fine and windy rain that has given way to the dark.

I can't help but feel nostalgic. I remember those exciting evenings out in the town with friends gathered around a table in my local. I also recall those long tiring days exploring the places I knew in my youthful past.

In my old college town, I saw a mixture of things that had and hadn't changed.

My local near the railway station had little changed, just new seating and bar staff. I enjoyed a single pint for my lunch of course as I remembered.

The well-known subway I passed through twice a day has long been filled in.

What is left of my college is one building. I managed to chinwag with one old bloke nearby who gave me the full story of my college's demise due to Asbestos.

So my task this Autumn is to learn how to deal with nostalgia and I hope this will help me in other ways.

Has anyone else set themselves a great task to complete?

Any stories to share would be very welcome.

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Interesting post Greyone

Funnily enough, I could smell those dark evenings as winter approached. This brought back many memories of Guy Fawkes which I used to love, hot food on my return home and getting warm and cosy were a few things I have thought about recently.

I try not to look back to often :-(

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Greyone in reply to chloe40

Hi Chloe.

I like to look back because there is so much too enjoy. I can take the sad bits a lot better now. Guy Fawkes though! That conjures up memories of all those disappointing fire works!!!

Greyone

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Caza

yes I’m always setting myself tasks to complete. Photos book’s possessions, don’t often get very far. At the moment it’s jewellery. So much of it & how to share it out knowing that no one really wants it.

As for looking back I really try not to. I was in a busy city two days ago & walking through the shopping precinct through John Lewis, all the Xmas lights were on it felt quite christmasy. All of a sudden I felt panicky & tearful remembering Christmas pasted. & how last yr & this yr how different it will be. For me it doesn’t do to look back. I absolutely loved it but it’s been & done have to make the most of what’s to come. It’s different but at times enjoyable in a different way.

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Greyone in reply to Caza

I can understand that. I have had mixed emotions for many years. I think I have mine in order now so good luck with your future.

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Midori

I can resonate with that. I too see changes made in the places I grew up in or lived in over my 75 years.

Take my school for example. I looked up on Google maps about a week ago, and I was shocked. the roads have changed, the school buildings are gone, replaced with a whole new school, a by pass and a new housing estate. Half the playing fields have gone (there used to be 40 acres!) I last saw it intact about 15 years ago!

The sports arena in the next town has been built on, despite it having been given to the people of the Town for a Sports arena, (in Perpetuity, I might add!) The Town Centre has been totally changed. if I went there now, I wouldn't know where I was!

Half the Riding school I attended is now a golf course!

I'm almost frightened to look at Google Maps again to see what else has gone, my grandparents' house maybe, or my parents house!'

All my childhood seems to have been erased as soon as my back was turned! Scary!

Cheers, Midori

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Greyone

MY old high school was bought up by the local university. The structures are still the same but the use is different. My first school is still down the road with lots of new buildings around it. They've taken down the fence surrounding the playing fields and opened it up.

Every time I go to look at it I imagine I am hearing Madonna's "This used to be my playground".

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