How many friends have you lost since your loss?

[chloe40]

This is an interesting question as so many so called friends seem to disappear when we lose our loved one or am I wrong?

Chloe<3

[KT22]

It’s hard to say as with the lockdowns I couldn’t see my friends anyway. However, several have dropped off the radar as far as phone calls & texts are concerned. Fortunately I have a small core of amazing friends. I’d be interested in others experience with friends,

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to KT22]

Hi KT22

Yours is a familiar story I'm afraid and this seems to happen often but as you say, it will be interesting to hear how others have found it <3

Chloe

[Sandradsn]

It's hard to tell with lockdown,I think people are so wrapped up with it.Some friends have kept in touch but they just talk about homeschooling,covid or vaccinations. I think people have forgotten I've lost 2 loved ones since January 20.

Feeling sad again today.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

Hi Sandradsn

You're right Sandra, most people have become consumed with talk of the virus and all that entails and that's understandable as that's all life has been about for year. I think that's the reason they haven't connected your losses Sandra. You have every right to be sad, two losses in such a such time is really hard to accept <3

Chloe

[Caza in reply to chloe40]

Yes I lost quite a few friends or I prefer to say many friends crossed the road. One couple who we spent many Christmas’s & holidays together, the guy I knew before my husband he even taught me to drive. I introduced him to his wife. So we were really close. Their adult daughter paid me visit to tell me to keep away from her mum as I upset her with my pain & sadness 😳. The next time I saw them was four yrs later at my sisters funeral. Needless to say I didn’t want to know. Many people sent lovely letters & cards but didn’t follow through, you certainly get to know who your true friends really are.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

Oh my goodness Caza

I've never hear of anything so cruel, I can only imagine how you felt hearing that! I'm so shocked to read that, I really am <3

I always tend to keep a open mind but I discover people can be so hurtful and even ignorant and that's unforgivable.

Chloe

[Caza in reply to chloe40]

I’ll never know if my friends knew about their daughters visit but the fact that no visits or calls came from them after that would imply that they did. Very painful & hurtful but by the time I saw them again I felt immune to them which was good. No lasting anger or bitterness towards them just indifference.