Soon after your loss did anyone ask you...

[chloe40]

To tell them what happened?

It sounds horrifying to have to explain such a difficult personal experience, but I've just read

the opposite, hmm.. of course it may help some to talk about it but it but so soon?

Chloe <3

[Nathalie99]

Sometimes it helps, other times it doesn't, it is different each time.It helped me to talk things through to understand some things regarding some losses.

Others don't talk because it is too much, too overwhelming.

I found it was most precious to have others to talk to at those times.

Good questions, Chloe. Thank you xx

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Nathalie99]

Thanks Nathalie99

I think I would have been too distressed to answer questions immediately after my loss but others may feel differently I appreciate that.

I hope all is well <3

[kenster1 Volunteer]

I didn`t really need to tell anyone it was on the news everyone knew it was also in all the newspapers but when I did talk and tell it did help. holding that in would have finished me off years ago.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

I can't imagine how you must have been feeling {{{hugs}}} Kenny kenster1

there are no words <3

I am glad that you were able to find the support you needed, but I can only think you wouldn't have wanted to answer questions immediately after the loss of your beautiful boy but later, yes.

<3

[Mumbutterfly in reply to chloe40]

I think I have been able to talk about it right now because of being in shock and still feeling like it’s not real, even after the funeral. Knowing it was on/ in the media made me feel like it was important to talk to some who care but don’t know all the facts.

[Mumbutterfly in reply to kenster1]

My brother’s death was on the news and in the paper. It has helped to talk about it to people who are close but don’t know all the facts.

[Caza]

yes all the time. I guess for other people it was sensational exciting even. We were fortunate in a way because a high profile case was going on. At her inquest this case had just been heard so all the reporters had left. I could have gone to the reporters myself but I wanted to save my other children from the invasion intrusion.

Nope I’ve never talked to anyone about the lead up the death or what came after not even to my husband. For me it’s way too painful & the mistakes made by others highlighted or paid for, as in compensation or punished wont bring her back.

Now if people ask I say I’m happy to talk about my daughter but not her death. Strangely enough the conversation closes 😞

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

Totally get that Caza

So very traumatic for you all.

It was good that you avoided too much publicity, death is very private for all of us <3

[Starrlight in reply to Caza]

❤️ ((((((((((hug)))))))) ❤️

[Hidden]

In my case, it helped to talk about it. It was so traumatic that I couldn't carry the burden alone.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Hidden]

I can understand that Hidden

Sometimes we just have to talk about our situations and that's better than keeping it inside us <3

[Midori]

I think it depends on the person; also the manner of the bereavement.

I had no choice but to talk about it with police, but as they were the same guys who had found him and knew how difficult it was to break into the house, it wasn't too difficult.

I did get proper support later.

Cheers, Midori

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Midori]

Thanks Midori

Yes for sure, every loss has a different set of circumstances.

Lovely to hear from you<3