What were the most comforting words spoken to you?

[chloe40]

After your loss?

Chloe<3

[GoGo_JoJo]

Strangely the most comforting thing was said long before my loss, in a conversation with my Dad some years ago about funerals he said to me "It is a day for remembering that a man's life has ended, all that he was, and all that he would become is at an end" and on that day, his funeral I was immensely proud of all that he was, and all that he became... and that helped, a lot.

Conversely, when my mother died 4 years later, I had no funeral for her, I could not be proud of either of those things, and again, strangely, it helped me decide what was right for me, and my brother.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Hi John,

What an absolutely perfect way to think of someone, your Dad was a very wise man.

Sorry you weren't able to do that with your Mum, but I really do ge that Jo.

Chloe x

[Greyone]

I have been thinking of this for a while and i cannot honestly say that happened.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Greyone]

I understand Greyone , I wasn't given wise words like GoGo_JoJo Dad, wish I had, but I will certainly remember them. All I was told were things like 'He was a good man' but that wasn't always the case but I think people feel obliged to say nice things about the deceased.

Chloe

[Greyone in reply to chloe40]

Hope you have a good weekend BTW.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Greyone]

Thank you, I do hope so!

[socratesanne in reply to chloe40]

I have not wise words but really find those who believe in an after life seem to have an answer that escapes me. Have studied this for year, but nothing seems to push me into some form of resolution. Help.

[Josephine13halffull]

It is what it is, it was out of my hands. Was an honest thing said to me and I was grateful for it.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello Josephine13halffull

Welcome to our Community.

Yes, I must say, that is certainly honest!

To a degree, it could depend on the circumstances, but any loss is heartfelt isn't it?

Chloe<3

[Josephine13halffull]

It certainly is. Its like drowning together then you swim to the top but cannot save your loved one as they sink and disappear.

[Clarrisa]

I went to a Grief Group & the leader’s honesty about the mistakes she felt she had made (with her prior loss) was the most helpful to me. She shared her humanness, bearing her mistakes (Those specific words of hers remain as they should within her group).

[chloe40 Administrator]

I'm so pleased you found that helpful, honesty can hurt but we learn from it for sure<3