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What are doing to help you through the difficult weeks ahead.

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As I won't be mixing this year, I am making preparations to keep myself

occupied during the festivities. Have you any ideas to help those of us 'that are not doing anything'?

So far I have some volunteer training to do.

I've bought extra books to read during this time.

?Maybe be I'll pick up my knitting.

Worst ways, I'll have a blitz and sort out. :-(

Chloe

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Skyp

Hi Chloe. Nothing like a good blitz and sort out😁I did that few weeks ago but I'm sure I could find more. I also have to do some on line training as I do voluntary work... But I keep putting it off 🤔

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Skyp

Hi Skyp

Ha ha! I remember you did a blitz not long ago.

Online training, yep, I know it well and I :-( it ugh!

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Sandradsn

I like to lose myself in a book.I would read all day if I could. Crochet and jigsaw puzzles I enjoy too.Its good to get out for a walk,fresh air can do wonders.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Sandradsn

Hi Sandradsn

Sounds like you're all set up :-) lovely

and a nice crisp walk will do wonders, enjoy.

<3

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Greyone

Hi Chloe - I was going to post this in its own right but your question is so appropriate I would like to share this with everyone and hope it will inspire everyone to share something similar:

Yesterday during dinner, an old memory from my childhood resurfaced.

Listening to a local radio station, the DJ played Charles Aznavour singing Hier encore.

A song and singer that has always haunted my memory. I can only just recall seeing him on what I am sure was many television appearances singing this song in French or English.

I managed to find several videos of him singing both renditions and copies of the lyrics.

The words truly resonate with me and I think the song represents what I want to feel. The nostalgia without regret.

Below I have included the lyrics I found for all to enjoy.

Yesterday Again

Yesterday when I was young

The taste of life was sweet as rain upon my tongue

I teased at life as if it were a foolish game

The way the evening breeze may tease a candle flame

The thousand dreams I dreamed, the splendid things I planned

I always built, alas, on weak and shifting sand

I lived by night and shunned the naked light of day

And only now I see how the years ran away

Yesterday, when I was young

So many drinking songs were waiting to be sung

So many wayward pleasures lay in store for me

And so much pain my dazzled eyes refused to see

I ran so fast that time and youth at last ran out

I never stopped to think what life was all about

And every conversation I can now recall

Concerned itself with me, me and nothing else at all

Yesterday the moon was blue

And every crazy day brought something new to do

I used my magic age as if it were a wand

And never saw the waste and emptiness beyond

The game of love I played with arrogance and pride

And every flame I lit too quickly, quickly died

The friends I made all seemed somehow to drift away

And only I am left on stage to end the play

There are so many songs in me that won't be sung

I feel the bitter taste of tears upon my tongue

The time has come for me to pay for yesterday

When I was young

Young, young...

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Greyone

Hi Greyone

Oh wow, how well I remember this song and Charles Aznavour, I just loved his voice.

I can well understand how this has 'haunted your memories'

It's so beautiful, thank you for taking the trouble to post the lyrics.

I think this would make a great new thread.

Can't wait, it will be great :-)

Hello Chloe I have been helping mam de clutter a bit and rearranged the furniture a bit for Xmas making the room a bit closer where the dining table is her front rooms too cold radiator trouble, I'm looking into getting a printer as I'm fed up of loosing special photos can't rely on digital I have a special one want to fraime and I may take up oil painting one day, we always seem to be busy on houses DIY decor always something needs doing, we put some thick curtains up in our porch ways to stop drafts and stick something in the key hole it's surprising how much draft comes through, the days go quick for us we try get out to shops across park most days but never yesterday was raining and cold I got out too late Sunday missed the snow but still got some to see i hope you keep warm and manage to distract your thoughts Xmas soon be here and over as it's just one day really boxing day people go shopping, it soon comes in dark and before we know it it's bedtime, 🤗💛✨🌟🌲here's a little distraction for you can you spot the cat in the tree my niece's kitten rsn up down kept peeping out 😹click to see full

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Turnipgirl

I had a right good blitz and a sort out just before I moved back in May!

What I intend to do is take things a day at a time and carry on with my swimming when I can and have a break from job hunting as its been getting me down and I will come back and try again when I'm ready.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Turnipgirl

Sorry to read about job hunting, but a break is the best way.

Enjoy your time

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Turnipgirl in reply to chloe40

What that was about was I had a horrible interview Tuesday just gone when they asked me did I have any children at interview which I believe in this day and age is illegal and also questions about health before a job offer as well.

I had my covid booster jab on Wednesday morning and had a sore arm afterwards but that has settled now and yesterday I got invited to an interview next Thursday at 11.30am and said yes I will go as there's nothing to lose by trying!

I'm glad I saw what the place I interviewed at on Tuesday was really like before it was too late and papers were signed and I was happy when they said I hadn't got the job with them!

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Turnipgirl

Hi Turnipgirl

No, they shouldn't have asked those questions!

I hope your arm is better soon.

Very good luck on Tuesday, do let us know how it goes x

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Turnipgirl in reply to chloe40

Good news as I got back on the horse this lunchtime and applied for some more jobs so we will see how things pan out.

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All the best.

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Vasiliki99

Just bear it all really

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chloe40Administrator

Yes, mostly that’s what we have to do but you’re not alone.

Take care and best wishes

Chloe

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