Has anyone a recording of their...

[chloe40]

loved one's voice that they've been able to listen to since their loss and how did you feel?

I know Jerry has one but I haven't come across anyone else.

Chloe

[MEW53]

I have an old message from my late husband from 2016 from when he was in hospital when he was very ill. It’s still on the ansaphone and the counter is set all the time to 1. It’s good to listen to it every now and again. It’s a lovely message telling me that he’s ok and that he was feeling ok, he passed away a few weeks later.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to MEW53]

That's very sad @Mews but also very comforting, I'd live to have had something like this <3

Chloe

[MEW53]

I also have a video of my late husband’s work presentation when he left work which one of his colleagues sent me after he passed away. He left work a few months before retiring as he was unable to carry on working with all the bad effects from the chemo he was having. It’s quite amusing cos he couldn’t open the presents cos they were so well taped up.

[GoGo_JoJo]

I did find a clip of my dad from a holiday video, which I put on to a flash drive for my Mum after he died. I've still got it somewhere, the best bit is hearing him laugh 💕

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Really GoGo_JoJo

To hear his laughter, wow that must be brilliant x

Chloe

[Aisha12]

I have my dad’s voice in my phone, I haven’t had the courage to listen to it yet. It’s been almost 3 years since my dad’s been gone, but just knowing his voice is in my phone is enough for now. Maybe one day I’ll pluck up the courage to listen to it, but can’t see myself doing that anytime soon. It’s a video of him I made telling a joke and making me, my brother and my mum laugh, to the point of crying lol. He’s got us all in tears because of a funny story he was telling us. He was laughing his head off and in tears too lol. Knowing I have that in my phone makes me smile and is enough for now

[chloe40 Administrator]

That's so lovely Aisha12

One day you'll be able to look back and be really comforted having this and most importantly, you'll smile or even shed a tear recalling the happy memories, not sad events <3

Chlo

[Greyone]

I wonder if any have set out to make an audiovisual memorial of their loved one. Maybe as a video will or epitaph. Neither mum nor dad made a will and so never took the opportunity to write their goodbyes.

Last year, this prayed on my mind and with our ever-diminishing family took thought to my final arrangements. Maybe the most meaningful messages are those that are left at the last moment?

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello Greyone

Do hope you are okay.

What a great idea, I certainly hadn't thought of that and it shouldn't be too difficult these days either.

Have you done this yet?

Chloe x

[Greyone in reply to chloe40]

I have to admit that leaving a recording intentionally is something that I had never thought of. I was thinking that many messages are left by our departed by luck or accident. But I think some have done that in the past as a way to leave something meaningful.

My only family beneficiary will be my sister and by the time one of us goes we may very well be in a similar state to mum and maybe not able to enjoy any recording.

With this train of thought, I am wondering when the best time to do that would be so that it did not become out of date.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello Greyone

Interesting post, thank you!

If I were thinking on lines with your reasoning then I'd make a recording soon and then update it every year or so. Now that may seem often but we never know what's around the corner do we?

Chloe

[Greyone]

Hi Chloe

Your idea is perfectly sound. I must confess that I have never been good at writing about myself. Nearly two years ago, I tried to write my own epitaph and was more than disappointed by my efforts. I have decided to have another go soon but have a feeling of admiration for those preachers so capable of creating a masterful speech with sp little details. I was so relieved when our vicar seemed to need so little about my mum to speak so well of her. Even no I find it hard to find the right words.

But no, I had a revealing experience at that time when I tried a few such exercises and I am minded to have another go. Whilst I have the time and inclination I suppose that is god enough to think about how I want to be remembered.

I think that next month i may very well do some research on this subject.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Greyone]

Sounds a great idea Greyone

Try not to put pressure on yourself though, you could always put a few words down on paper and then add to it as and when they come into your mind. I'm sure you will find the right way and we don't always need to compose everything, let your mind run with it.

Chloe <3