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Has anyone experienced a sudden loss

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Would you care to share how you coped with us and how you are now?

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Hello lea57-49r

Welcome to our Community.

I'm really so sorry for the loss of your pets. It's a dreadful feeling, and one that is hard to describe to others who haven't experienced it. I empathise, I too have been through this as have others here and you can check out the posts from the Topic on the right hand side of the page. If you'd like to upload photos, I will add these too.

Take care

Chloe

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Hi there,

When you send a post, just before you press send, you'll see 'photo' click that an upload, can't wait to see our new cat.

Chloe

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when my son died it was sudden and a complete shock to a whole community.i had been sitting with few friends having a beer watching football.another friend came round and said I needed to go home asap.i thought he only wanted my chair as he had nowhere to sit.he then left and my friends phone rang it was my mum telling me to come home I then asked if my brothers dad and sister where ok my mum said yes.the last thing going through my mind was my son as he was only six years old.i reluctantly went home not knowing what was happening then my mum said I was to phone my ex partners mum when I did she said the police are coming to take you to the hospital as my son had an accident.as I waited with my friend the police came and the officer told me to get in the front seat.we where racing through the streets of Glasgow trying to get to the hospital and from the back seat my friend leaned over and patted me on the back and im saying he probably only hurt his leg or something but my friend knew what was to come.as soon as I got to the hospital my ex came out screaming and that's when I realised he was gone.instead of going in to the room I climbed up onto the power station and was trying to commit suicide but the policeman and my friend pulled me down.eventually I went in sat with the priest and held my son and im shouting hes not dead I can feel him move he was still warm.after that I was just numb broken and lost we all where it was all to much to take in.we couldn't even donate his organs due to the severity of the accident as he had 90 fractures to the skull.sorry about the details/graphics but that's how it was.even me writing this im getting emotional but at least I can tell the story.

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chloe40Administrator in reply tokenster1

This is the saddest post I've ever read Kenny kenster1

I cannot begin to understand how you were feeling that night or now, such a terrible time for all of you and something time doesn't heal. {{{hugs}}}

You'll always be among friends here Kenny.

Chloe

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kenster1Volunteer in reply tochloe40

about ten days before the accident me my son and my brothers two daughters had been at my mums and I found an old camera with some photos left I took pictures with them and one with me and my son.after the accident I went to pick them up after being developed and opened them up only to discover the pictures never turned out I was even robbed of a photo taken with him on the last day I saw him.

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chloe40Administrator in reply tokenster1

That really is too much Kenny! so sorry. I hope you have made a memory box if not do try, it helps. Fill it with all the mementos you have, anything that reminds you of him and open it and go through the memories they hold whenever you wish, it's a great comfort.

Chloe

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kenster1Volunteer in reply tochloe40

ive got his hair clippings and hand prints taken at the hospital after he died some pictures and a baby grow and one day out skiing we had is my best memory it was through my volunteering we went and everyone loved having him along.and ive got some toy soldiers as well.

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GoGo_JoJo in reply tokenster1

That's a parents' worst nightmare; I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking loss.

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kenster1Volunteer in reply toGoGo_JoJo

thanks that means a lot.

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lea57-49r in reply tokenster1

I really am so sorry for your loss. That is a dreadful thing to have happened. I hope you find that it helps to come on here and talk.

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