I miss my mom

[fallen_leaf]

I didn’t think it would hurt this much or be this hard

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello there fallen_leaf

Grief is so very hard to deal with , none of us are prepared for the pain we suffer as a result.

I'm don't know how long it has been since you lost your dear Mom, but I am guessing it is quite recent and it is all very raw for you. We all need to take as much time as we need, grief can't be rushed but worked through the best way you can.

Always here for you {{{hugs}}}

Chloe x

[kenster1 Volunteer]

hi I miss my mum too with christmas being so near these are the things we dwell on more.it maybe hard but it good to remember all of the happier festive periods you had together.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Hi kenster1

These are good points you make Kenny, we often forget that most of us have some wonderful memories and it helps if we can look back on these with love and happiness.

That's not forgetting those of us who have some very bad memories we'd really rather forget, it's a question of looking for the positive if we can possibly face it.>3

Chloe x

[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to chloe40]

yeah I had tough Christmases as well times we never got presents times where that tough my mum always wanted to spoil us but it wasn't easy.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Yes, a lot of folk had and still have it tough kenster1 I feel so sorry for the parents who are faced with Christmas and money shortages. I saw on the TV last night they even have children's presents in the food banks! how sad is that.

My heart goes out to them and all the homeless people, not just at Christmas they need as much support all year round.

Chloe x

[Greyone]

It is a big unknown and even feeling how much or little hurt you have is difficult to understand. But sharing helps.

[GoGo_JoJo]

Grief is confusing and strange, but one thing is for sure, it always hurts. Hurts when we think it won't, hurts when we think it might. The oddest things cut deepest. Time helps, but time never moves so slowly as when we need a buffer. 😔

[Clarrisa]

You understand fallen_leaf. Mothers can have such special, endearing qualities. My mother had done graduate work in botany. I saved all the leaves she drew, colored & identified. She was so observant on walks. I am sure she learned much from her father who grew up on a homestead & ran his own homestead for many years. They were both very close to the earth.

My older sister I think takes after my mom the most. She lives out in the back country & has been paying us a visit this holiday. So I am all the more remembering my mother seeing my sister, dressed in clothes that have a country flare. She leaves tomorrow at the crack of dawn returning to the unspoiled country life. Her husband said it will cost $500 in gas to make their round trip journey. They don’t visit often. My sadness has returned in force from such a flood of memories ...

[fallen_leaf in reply to Clarrisa]

😢

[Arniestal]

I know, if anyone had told me how much pain it would cause I wouldn't have understood. It's physical and mental. The loss will always be there, the yearning for her company. But after 33 months it has got easier to bear. Wishing the same for you.

[Optimistic_22]

Hi sorry to hear about your loss. It isn’t easy God knows but you will get through. Take care of yourself mentally and physically. Make sure you eat to keep up your strength and exercise to keep you balanced. I truly know how hard this is. Talk to therapist or loved ones on your emotions don’t hold in.

On the other hand give yourself a break if you cry all day may be to much on you mentally. Give yourself a time limit maybe 5 minutes cry and talk to others when needed. You shouldn’t hold in but can’t let it overcome you either. They would want you to be happy and not let this take you over. Just remember it will get better gradually. There’s also support groups can answer questions on how to cope. One day when you look back you’ll notice the pain not as deep. It’s ok to feel sad but in moderation. Keep us posted on how your doing. We are here for you. Take a nice warm bath, read a book . This is your time to take care of you now and that’s ok. 😘