I miss my mom

[Missylluvv1]

I miss my mom so much. She was my best friend, mentor and all around hero. It’s so hard to be in this world without her. I’ve been trying to suppress my feelings to suppress the hurt but it’s still there. I would do anything to see her again. I’m so lonely.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello Missylluvv1

Welcome to our friendly Community.

I'm so sorry to read that you have lost your beloved Mom {{{hugs}}} You didn't say how long ago that was, but whenever it was the feeling of loneliness you feel is real and very painful. Of course, a Mom is all the things you describe and its so good to hear that.

What worries me Missy, is that you are suppressing your feelings and that is making it harder to cope with. You really need to be able to talk all this through, all the things in your head and heart and if you don't have anyone you can confide in, then please please ask your doctor for a referral to see a Bereavement Counsellor or Therapist asap.

We have all been through or going through grief ourselves, so we all understand how you are feeling, so please do post here, there will always be someone to reply.

Chloe xx

[Missylluvv1 in reply to chloe40]

Thank you for such a heartfelt, thoughtful response. Yes I’ve been thinking lately that I need to see someone. I attend griefshare, which helps, but it’s a group setting so I don’t get to talk much. My mom passed last September and I felt like I got better for a few months but now the pain and despair is back. I know grief has ups and downs and I’m in a pretty bad “down.” I’m seeing my doctor soon and will request a referral, thank you for that suggestion.

Thank you for welcoming me to the group, I will probably post often.

[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to Missylluvv1]

hi and a warm welcome to you,i am deeply sorry to hear of your dearest mum.heartfelt sympathy to you and your family.i too lost my mum nearly ten years ago and she was to me like your mum was to you.i never had any counselling for my mum but I should have as I was left a broken shell.to be honest I don't know how I managed but I did.even if you've already been it doesn't mean you cant go again.ive been to counselling for my son still waiting to attend my first appointment for when my dad died but you can have a telephone appointment as well.until you get another appointment its best you talk it over with other family members of how you feel.i also like to visit the graveyard very regular I think that has helped me more than anything.

[Missylluvv1 in reply to kenster1]

Thank you for your reply. Yes, a broken shell is so accurate. Grief is such a crazy thing. When it first happened, I was sure I would die from a broken heart, I lived minute to minute, trying to remember to breathe. Then I found God and it was a rebirth. I felt so much comfort and support that I shouted it from the rooftops. And now, the pain and agony are creeping back in. I’m experiencing crazy anxiety and it’s so hard to get up everyday. I know I need therapy and I’m going to make the phone call tomorrow. I started journaling and even use an online CBT service...I still need to talk to someone tho.

I’m sorry for the loss of your mom and dad as well. I lost my dad as a teenager so I know how difficult it is not to have your parents around.

I pray for comfort and peace for us all.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Missylluvv1]

You're very welcome Missylluvv1 and please do post often, we're always here for you!

It's still very early days for you but that really doesn't help how you are feeling right now.

Really pleased you are attending Griefshare, every little bit of support you can get helps and please do let us know how you are.xx

Chloe

[Greyone]

Hi Missylluvv1

Mothers are so special and i know their loss will hit us in unexpected ways. Please don't try to suppress the hurt or anything painful. If your loss is recent then think of her every day and set aside a quite time, maybe on your own or any loved ones who can share your grief and have a little or big cry. Then think of all the happy memories you have of mum

Do you share your memories with those who knew and loved her as much as you always will ? My family have a special birthday card sent to my mum by a neighbour thanking he so much for all the kindness she has show over the last 30 years. Sometimes i takes this out when i think of mum.

Why not plan something special for next Sunday. At first this can be hard but i hope you and your family have made some plans to celebrate her life and all the joy she gave.

Good luck.

[thedoulamom]

My heart hurts so much for you. I can tell you are in a lot of pain right now. Have you considered counseling? It may be a great way to help you sort out your feelings and give you some tools to help move forward. I know if you call 1-855-382-5433, their Licensed Professional Counselors can help get you a referral for a professional local to you. If you're not ready for that, maybe try a support group? I know GriefShare is a great international program. I've had several loved ones go through the course, and it was very beneficial for their healing journey. In the mean time, here's some great resources to ponder that I give my bereavement clients (I'm a doula and lay counselor) to help get the process started.

list.ly/list/2Eu7-a-guiding...

I wish you all the best! <3