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How are you really feeling, now that the festive period is over?

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It feels really weird right now, the dark wet, and [snowy day] seems to have had a strange

almost eerie effect.

It would be easy to go back to bed, but now is the time to pick up on the hobbies, read or paint, anything that has a pick me effect, and use this period as 'me time'.

Any ideas welcome.

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I'm feeling a bit sad ,I have 2 anniversaries this week so have been looking back in time.I'm going to buy flowers though,there are tulips in our local shop.!and I've left some twinkly lights up from Christmas, so the lounge looks cosy.I've not read a book for months so would like to start again, that's my aim.

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Hi Sandradsn

Sorry you're feeling sad, with two anniversaries this week I'm not surprised.

Having flowers around really help I feel, I bought Daffodils this morning, I was so pleased to see them in the shop, although it's extremely early, but it makes me feel that Spring is not too far off.

I also put my twinkly lights (the ones on a wire) into a glass vase and they look great, and so comforting.

Yes, a book really helps me too.

Take care Sandra, keep warm x

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relieved sums it up I think.

It’s a busy time, four birthdays in the family on the same day. Two big celebrations which I should be excited about but don’t. Which makes me feel guilty. My daughter’s birthday at the end of the month which I normally do something although that’s dwindled over time. I just can’t be bothered.

I’ve booked a crochet lesson for my friends birthday. We try to get something different & fun. I’ve booked things throughout the year which should please me but doesn’t. I’d be quite happy to go to bed with the electric blanket & a book. Dreadful waste of a life 🤦‍♀️. Woe is me I’m afraid 😟

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Oh, that's a shame Caza

So much to going on to help you through, it's so sad you don't feel up to it.

Everyone seems pretty down, it is January of course, if I could only afford it I have always wished to go abroad to a sunny place for the whole of this month, I just loathe January.

Trouble is, unless we get involved in something that takes our minds of it, well what is there?

x

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Caza in reply tochloe40

I’ve done that Chloe, & it was brilliant. Sun sea & no Christmas as such. I did feel at peace & away from the cold damp dark nights. Not now possible. But happy memories.

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That must have been wonderful, what fab memories Caza

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Turnipgirl

What I intend to do is take January a day at a time as it doesn't last forever!

This afternoon is an interview at 2pm in Newport for a radiology reception job so I can take my time in getting ready and then a trip to the greengrocers there as I have eaten up all the fresh veg from the fridge I got 3 weeks ago!

Yesterday morning I nearly screamed in frustration as the traffic was ridiculous when I was going for a swim at 10am but thankfully I managed to get to the swim early and it's a lesson in allowing lots of time to do things when you reckon they are going to be frustrating!

Tuesday I allowed loads of extra time to get to an interview for 10am as it was icy on the roads which was sensible and I arrived at the interview site early which I would rather do than trust to luck and arrive late and in a state and their 9am one had cancelled due to the ice so they saw me nice and early and I went away from them feeling that I gave it my best and had a great afternoon swim which helped get rid of the feelings of stress and tension that had built up!

Saturday just gone I accepted a short notice interview as I had nothing better to do and yesterday evening at 10pm they invited me in for a face to face one this Friday morning!

I didn't like their attitude on Saturday so with confidence I happily told them no no thank you to the interview this Friday coming and feel happy and relaxed about it and life is still carrying on after I told them an honest no!

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Good luck this afternoon, sounds a lovely position x

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Turnipgirl in reply tochloe40

It's been a nice productive morning this morning as I popped in to see where I will be going just now just to make sure and then walked into town and had a cup of tea and caught up with job applications and had some lunch and walked down after lunch to relax before my interview at 2pm!

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Excellent!

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Turnipgirl in reply tochloe40

My interview went well this afternoon and I went away from it feeling I had given it my best shot and they said they will contact everyone on Monday which is fair enough!

If it doesn't come to anything I won't be heartbroken though!

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Well you did your best Turnipgirl

Monday is not too long to wait x

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