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hi

new to this site.

really struggling with an accumulation of grief from losing my nan to other losses where amazing people have been in my life who have gone who brought so much light and beauty to my life

[jaykay777]

gentleheart -- Welcome. I'm sure you will soon hear from others here. You are fortunate to have had your nan and the others in your life.

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I know I loved my nan so much and other amazing lady who believed in me when i couldn't believe in myself

[Nathalie99]

Hi gentleheart,

I can relate to what you are saying. I have developed the fear of loss as I have lost so many people. I choose to live my life regardless but at times it is difficult.

Cherish those moments of light and beauty - these memories are yours to keep forever...

Wishing you lots of strength.

[Hidden in reply to Nathalie99]

thank u. I'm terrified of loss. I push people away and think if I'm completely alone no one can hurt me.

[Nathalie99 in reply to Hidden]

I had moments where I felt like this. Taking a chance again is not easy but I am telling myself that it is so worth it.

[Hidden in reply to Nathalie99]

I know it scares me. I hide so much about myself that I'm fighting an eating disorder and just come as gay. just want to embrace my true self

[Nathalie99 in reply to Hidden]

That is very powerful that you are able to embrace your true self. It is very sad that the world is not always accepting and that's why people hide who they are.

Thank you for sharing, you made a huge step...

I hope this acceptance will help you with your eating disorder and reduce stress...

[Hidden in reply to Nathalie99]

yes all acceptance and compassion shows me its okay to be me !

[Hidden]

Hi welcome to the forum. I totally understand how you are feeling they are special, and it feels like they leave a big hole. I don't think you get over losing them, you learn how to cope. I hold onto my memories, i love having things around me that my nan loved, her favourite flowers, photos, her jewellery. You will always have your memories, and when your ready you will treasure them x

Angie

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

yes its so difficult losing someone u truly loved and u can never say how much u loved them x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

My nan was everything to me we were so close, I learnt a lot from her. I also learnt so much and was very close to my grandad he taught me about nature, animals and seeing and involving myself in this I can feel him around me. It will take time but then you will love your memories of them

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I miss other people who haven't passed as well. I think all loses are difficult

[Hidden]

I understand x

[spykey]

Hi gentleheart

A Very Warm Welcome to our friendly & supportive Bereavement care & share community it's good to have you with us!

Everyone is friendly & encouraging! Feel free to post as and when you want or need to!

Everyone is non-judgemental & accepting, as you have already discovered in the replies to your posts! I'm sorry to hear you lost you nan & other significant people in your life! Grief is not easy for any of us and we all grieve differently! But you are on the right site, with many members who understand many of the emotions that come with grief & are all willing to support as and when they can!

Take Care. Warmest Wishes Spykey 🤗

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello there Hidden

A very warm welcome to our friendly and supportive Forum. We all care and share our losses here no matter what they are, and you are always welcome to share whatever you wish, we are here to support you always. Loss of any kind affects us in different ways and I always feel it is better to talk things through if you possibly can. I also agree with Hidden try making a memory box and fill it will any mementoes of your Nan and others that you can look at when your are feeling sad. Things like birthday cards, maybe something your Nan has knitted or made for you, or gifts she bought for you. You may want to plant your Nan's favourite flower in the garden or go to places you went together, it really does help.

Warm wishes

Chloe