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Is it bad to sit home alone on New Years Eve?

This is a completely trivial question but I am struggling to get up and go out for New Years. I have been invited to two things but I just don't feel I can do it! I feel bad because there is such an expectation to do stuff on New Years Eve but I had a bad day at work with my anxiety and I am just struggling. This will be my only NY's in London too... I know I should push myself to go out. Its just so hard. What should I do?

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It's not bad Cass but I wonder if you'll kick yourself at a later date passing up on the opportunity. Only you can decide what to do.


No of course, it's not bad. If you really can't face it love, watch it on tv, curled up under your duvet. You'll not be alone either, I'm sure there'll be other people up on here. Me in all likelyhood, I have no plans to go out.

However in my experience you regret more the things you didn't do than the things you did. This is your first New Year in London - wouldn't it be nice to mark it ? Do your friends understand your anxiety? Would they look out for you? Would there be someone to bring you home safely if you want to go back?

Whatever you decide it will be ok.

Don't beat yourself up about it - you are doing the best you can at this moment in time.

There will be other New Years.

Love and Best Wishes,



Hi there .........yes you're right you can feel under pressure to join in, by all means put your feet up in front of the telly if you really feel that you want to ......you know it's fine to go with what you feel either way.

I do know what you mean though about thinking of it getting to midnight and wondering how the festivities are going. Do you have a friend who is going.....maybe give them a call and see what they say.....chances are that lots of other people at work feel worn out and not really up for it also but will have quite a nice time once they are there.

It's probably a good idea to limit the drinks if you do go as that is where the trouble will lie tomorrow and also you will sleep better if you just have a few around midnight for the NY.

Anyway whatever you decide, don't worry it's completely ok either way.......and have a happy New Year.



Thank you all again. Its just so nice to have someone understand. I have decided I am going to go out and just try my hardest. If I am having too many troubles I will come home, no problems. Unfortunately I don;t have a good friend to bring me home but I am confident that I can get myself home if i need. I'm sure once I am out and about I will be just fine.I know I can do this!


Go Girl ~ hope you're having a great time :)


Do as u want to love,iv had the last 8nys alone ,I either watch tv ,some thing ,funny or upbeat,or music ,and a glass of something at ur elbow,I have no one to spend ny with ,theser the things that I do,xxxx


Being tee-total I don't really like New Years Eve as it seems to be just an excuse to drink, drink and drink, and to be honest I can't be bothered to stay up just to watch a clock tick round, so rarely go out.


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