giving up

[lisabunny44]

Hi all..... Last week was a really good week and the happiest i have felt im 3 months,BUT yet again the anxiety has had to spoil it, im just so tired of feeling like this an i may aswell give up im not able to fight these terrible feelings any longer im just not strong enough....

[mumma]

without sounding like Ronan Keating life is a roller coaster. You cannot expect to appreciate great times without having experienced the hard times. Try and unpick exactly what made last week good and why you didn't feel anxiousnand what the difference is this week. The fact that you were able to feel the happiest you had been in awhile means that things are changing and like all things you have to expect hurdles along the way. Could more caffine or lack of sleep be to blaim? remember your not alone and that you have it within yourself to have good times and last week showed that.

[Pennylayne]

Hi there......I know you said in a previous question that you were prescribed Citalopram but didn't know whether to take it. I'm just wondering what you decided to do. It does sound as though you need some help. If you have started taking the meds it can take quite a few weeks to make a noticeable difference but the benefits will come.

If you really feel that you don't want to take the meds do go back to your doctor and say you don't want to take them but that you feel that you do need help. They will be used to people doing that so don't worry about going.

It's really tough to feel so anxious and completely drains you and is a bit frightening in a way as you can't really tell what to do.

I would say the first thing is to make that appointment and then sort of let the anxious feelings wash over you, it's so wearing trying to fight them. Let them come and you will see that the feelings are no worse in fact they will probably lessen. Thinking about how bad they are is what gives them strength ........Imagine them like balloons that have been blown up too long and are beginning to sag and drop down. They are thoughts that's all, just ones we have a bit of trouble controlling but we can learn to control them.

We can use things like medication and CTB, counselling etc to help us as it's not always that easy to do it alone.

This time of year is difficult for everyone let alone those of us with anxiety......it's a bit of a mad time of year when there seems to be pressure from every angle.

We can cope with a little help and support .......ask for it, it's no different to getting medication for the flu.

Take Care and hoping it eases soon. PL

[lisabunny44]

Hello ladies.... thank you both for you replies it means alot.. I guess my problem is i put to much pressure on myself i keep thinking i must get better before christmas so i dont spoil everybodys day,will i ruin it for the kids etc... when in fact i know deep down its going to take time and there is no quick fix.... I have been taking 10mg of citalopram but my GP suggested i start taking 20mg which i stared on Monday,still early days i guess... thanks again ladies Lisa x

[VincentVega]

Hi LB,

your right, you said it yourself, the meds don't work instantly gonna take a little time LB, shame i wished there was a magic pill. and your thinking negatively even in your writing, christmas isnt here just yet and you know it will all be over in 10 mins, try to think that you just might enjoy christmas, the kids will enjoy chrismas regardless, wished i was a kid again it sure was easier back then, wouldnt have had a clue what anxiety was thats forsure, still, thats not helping you, its all about changing those thought patterns, try to be just a little more positive, and when those thoughts start try to take a little more control, tell yourself this is not going to help right now, and try hard to change to a positive thought, i know its easier to say than to do, believe me, but you can make progress, by taking small steps each day, best wishes VV x

[Pennylayne]

Lisa ......really glad to read your last post, you sound better, it will take a while for the extra Citalopram to start helping, at least a few weeks. It's a good thing that your GP is keeping an eye on things and has suggested the extra dosage. At least now you know you have done something positive about it.

There are relaxation and breathing exercises you can do as well that do help if you are feeling very 'twizzy' which is my name for not knowing which way is up You can find them on-line.

As for Christmas .......got to be in the top ten of anxiety causing things, it's at least as bad as moving house !!!!! It will indeed all be over a month from now.

Don't for a minute think 'I must get better for this reason or that', you get better for yourself and you look after yourself and then you will be great for the children etc.

Children are tough little cookies and they will be happy if they have some nice food and a few pressies and extra treats so don't worry at all.

Take Care PL

[lisabunny44]

Hi V V and PL Thank you both very much for your positive comments.. Its sites like this that really do make a difference and most of all to know your not alone... many thanks Lisa x