Anxiety rising

[unsteddie]

Anyone find that the more they take on and put themselves into anxiety provoking situations the more anxiety they have?

I have to say im pretty stressed out at the moment..... so bare with me if this sounds a bit negative

[Gordon1966]

yea, i find this too,i try and not burden myself with too much,but when im anxious,i need to be very busy, catch 22

[Bramwell]

Absolutely. I find it all the time.

The more stress you give yourself (whether imagined or genuine) the more anxiety will come on too.

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Hi unsteddie. Of course, if you are already stressed then by putting yourself in stressful situations you will increase the stress! Would you try to jog if you had broken your leg? If you are working it is very difficult not to be in a stressful situation at times. But it depends how stessed you are. If you can (very difficult) try to accept the way you feel and just do what you have to do, slowly if necessary, without looking over your shoulder all the time waiting for some symptom to arise. It is the FEAR of FEAR that causes you to feel stressed. I would refer you to the books by Dr. Claire Weekes available from Amazon. These have helped me very much as I have been in a similar situation myself. Do not worry about sounding negative; who would'nt when they feel the way you do. And do not worry about what others think. They may well find themselves in the same situation, as stress can affect anyone. Be negative, but just accept the negativity and do not dwell on it. I hope this is of some little help. Best of luck. jonathan.

[Melgil58]

Hi yes I find ppl coming with theyre problems to me they usually walk out smiling prob solved me exhausted but that's how it is with some of us we worry for ourselves but that sometimes makes us good worriers for others it sometimes makes me avoid certain ppl so they don't dump their stuff on me try not to be negative hard though it is you deserve a good happy life yourself we can't solve all the worlds problems just a few of our own you take care and don't forget to put your own happiness first sometimes All the best. Mel

[julied87]

hiya,

i find sometimes tho my anxiety rises for no reason, take today i didnt over do it and didnt do to little but randomly today ive felt waves of anxiety come over me ever so slightly for no reason, enough for me to think urgh no go away please, ive found this has happened a few times recently, not when ive been stressed or worried actually feeling 'normal' if that makes any sence ? x

[Bramwell]

I know exactly what you mean Julied87. I can be quite happy and calm watching TV or something and all of a sudden a wave of anxiety will just sweep through me for no reason.

[hamble99b]

"un-expressed emotions never go away! they wait around and catch you unaware".

I used to try to ignore things, put them in "boxes" where I didn't need to deal with them. one day they all fell over and there was no hiding from them. I had so many issues I couldn't cope. a wise man stated the quote [above] and he was so right.

I've found myself relaxing, watching tv and started to laugh when ...bam! sob for england.

Or in the supermarket or singing along to the radio and realise that my t-shirt neck is wet and silent tears are flooding out.

over the years I've learnt a lot about letting my emotions out, cbt, and other coping strategies.

these help but I still get caught out.

Anxiety has many starting points and sometimes a stray often illogical thought can set it off.

very often if I feel over tired or anxious my mind will create a reason for it - often irrational and faulty fear filled, I just have to concentrate on my breathing and go with the feeling, looking at in in small manageable pieces. and accept that sometimes I can't rid myself of it at this time.

allow yourself to be how you need to be at that time and lose the shame or guilt - [like jonathan said about the broken leg] you can only do what you can in he moment. pace yourself. and accept in you what you accept in others.

regards,

sandra.

[unsteddie]

thanks for all your caring and informative replies.

its very frustrating at times suffering with these symptoms almost all of the time..

Im at a stage right now where I have had to step out a bit and am over my anxiety threshold by quite a bit for sustained periods.. sometimes I can sort of go out deal with the anxiety and then get somewhere quiet and 'come down' but at the moment its all a bit ontop of me and out of my control.

I do sort of have all the answers in my head about what i need to be doing etc but when it actually comes to putting my thoughts and idea's to cope into action i get even more stressed and frustrated... this leads to more anxiety,insomnia and depression in my case.

Im considering going to see my gp to discuss things and see if I can actually talk with someone and unload the problems im having.. possibly seeking a medicine to help with this period of time.Im not a fan of meds as I dont like to take anything but if there was something that the dr could prescribe that could just take the edge off then maybe id be wise to give it a go.

any more thoughts?

thanks