Family hardships: (to Preface, ive always...

(to Preface, ive always been a good and respecting kid with good grades and a great focus on academics.)

Over the last couple months, I have brought deeply buried issues in my family to light. I had a boyfriend of 3 years that i was allowed to go out with and see all the time. This was my first true sense of freedom ever. My mom allowed me to hang out with him and his family constantly because she liked his family and was trusting of them. About half a year ago, i broke up with him for simple and personal reasons. I wanted more and he had no ambitions in life and i felt lit weighed me down. I made that decision for myself. This is relevant because of the backlash i recieved from my parents after breaking up with him. My mom loved him and could not understand why i left him even after i explained all of the reasons i was not happy with him anymore. My mom has always been mean and aggressive, but i was able to deal with it while i was with my ex because of the freedom i was provided with because of him. Now that i no longer have that freedom, my mom is intolerable again. She is mean and unaccepting of all of the people in my life, especially any new love interests. She talks to me horribly and does not allow me to do much. I can occasionally hang out with my cousin and i go out on walks with my neighbor/boyfriend. My mom is mean and does not listen to reason, let alone allow me to live my life as i should be doing at my age. I have tried everything, sitting down and reasoning with her, staying silent and accepting her emotional abuse, even reaching out to others. It has been months since she's been so bad again, and its becoming a true burden to my health and progression. Im now caught at a cross roads between waiting it out until i go off to college, or putting my foot down now and demanding some sort of respect. I plan to talk very minimally to my mom in college until the distance hopefully changes her. But i know itll be easier then because i wont have to deal with her constant backlash and hurtful remarks everyday. I dont know what to do anymore and i need advice, from parents or even from others in similar situations. , please reach out