As the New Year approaches I'm already kicking myself in the arse (excuse my language) for some things I did not this year. I feel like, if I had just done some volunteering once charity shops reopened in say, the Summer, I could've recovered a bit from my anxiety and given myself something to do. But not only have I remained at home like a loser, my anxiety has gotten worse and worse, to the point where I fear I've done some permanent damage to my brain.
And now, I've spent the entirety of 2021 unemployed and at home. Sure, the first half was understandable since we were still in lockdown but as soon as restrictions were getting lifted again something should've told me "Ok, no excuses, get some volunteer work if you're still unemployed" but no, I didn't. I can't even enjoy the Holidays now. Why the heck does it take until its too late for me to realise these things?
I need some help. I really feel like I could've cured and helped myself for the better by doing this. But I didn't so therefore I have to suffer the consequences. Any advice? Thanks.
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It's not too late! Time is a human construct. You could think of Sunday as a new year or you could just think of it as another day. Yes, 2021 is over but you've realised some things that could make you feel better. Do them! Do them now. Progress is always progress, doesn't matter what the date is.
Sometimes things are tough and we just have to get through. Don't punish yourself now for things you did or didn't do in the past. Some days we make progress and some days we just have to get through. Hindsight is a wonderful thing but it's never too late.
I lost my job on 23rd December 2020 so I too have been unemployed for a year. I spent most of it in the house too although I did go out walking a few days a week and exercised at home.
I sort of get what you mean, it seems like a wasted year but it's in the past now, you have the year ahead to go out and do stuff you wanted to over the last year. Don't call yourself a loser. A lot of people have been going through the same as you, its just how it's been this year and it can't be helped.
Get started in the new year, don't make any excuses not to.. Get up and get going!
We are ill, which is why we're on this forum! I've had to give up a lot of volunteering because of illness and, at first, I felt like you. Now I realise that I'm not a worse person because of it, I just have worse health than I used to, and that restricts what I can do. But other opportunities have come along and I've done what I can, so I'm sure you'll find something too - you just need to stop beating yourself up over what you quite legitimately can't do.
been volunteering since 97 with the same charity just now since 2015 absolute love it and it dragged me out of the big black hole.come new year get yourself back to the charity work think of how good you felt and of the work you put in for others in need.
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All of a sudden feel so angry at myself 
Ashamed of me?
I just want to be myself again
