Is my friend rude or is she just completely stupid?

[DemureRose]

Ok I’m currently in a weird spot with my “friends.” All last school year and this summer, me and three girls were tight. We talked nearly everyday and hung out frequently. But when college started this fall, we all stopped talking to one another for a while.

Well...they all stopped talking to me. They all stayed in contact with one another but neglected to talk to me. But whatever.

But one thing that always bothered me was that one of the girls would always post pictures when she was out with the other two girls or one of them. And the captions were always stuff like “Besties!” Or “thankful for my friends” or “BFFs!” But they were pictures of all of them hanging out with me...🤔

And the same thing just happened, though I will admit the situation is a little different. They’ve kinda not talked to me for a while.

We hung out once a few months ago and after that none of them talked to me at all. Like at all. And for a while I would make the first move and ask them how school was or small talk like that, only for them to respond and then let the conversation die. So I decided I’d just stop making the first move and see if they would contact me. They didn’t.

But then a few weeks ago I get this random message on our group chat asking if we all want to get together. I was in quarantine for covid exposure so I couldn’t but I thought them asking was a sign they wanted to be friends still.

I guess not. Cause tonight I open my Snapchat and see that the same girl who used to post stuff a lot hanging out without me, posted a picture hanging out with my other two friends and some other people. She also posted a picture of them all hanging out with the caption “Thankful for my best friends!” And apparently it was for her birthday, which I would have said yes to hanging out to celebrate her birthday no doubt about that

But like...this girl is not a very malicious person. Or at least I didn’t think so. I mean I’ve had friends try to be rude by rubbing it in my face on social media that they’re hanging out without, and this feels the same but I don’t know.

Is it possible my friend is just so stupid that she doesn’t realize what she is doing is super rude? Or do you think she knows?

Like I don’t care really that my friends hang out without me. That’s within their rights and yeah it’s hurtful but not the end of the world. What gets me is posting about it on social media. Like why? Why do that? I’m not saying be sneaky about it but maybe don’t be so obvious! 😂

I don’t know. Any opinions?

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Hi

Social media can be one of the worse things out there and lot's of times all these posts saying what a wonderful time they are having is usually because they are trying to prove something to others and a lack of security in themselves and yes they can be really ignorant of hurting others yet sometimes they can be plain stupid

I think you have two choices

You put in a message and tell them how you feel and see what response you get

Or

You just let this group of friends go and make new one's

Through life your circle of friendships will change numerous times it is just one of those things but know you are worthy of true friendships and they will come

Hope it works out for you which ever way it goes it will be meant to be and if they do not realise what they are loosing then their loss and someone else's gain because there will be friends you have yet to meet that will treat you the way you deserve with thought and respect x