Dinner

[anon99]

I’m at my grandpas house eating dinner. I’m so anxious I can’t eat. I’m scared something bad will happen. Like a blood clot or a seizure or an aneurysm. My chest feels funny my head feels funny and I’m sweaty I feel like I can’t breathe and everything is bright

[Agora1]

Bring your shoulders down away from your ears and BREATHE x

Enjoy the moment with Grandpa...Nothing bad is going to happen.

Stay in the moment and don't allow your thoughts to go to the

"what ifs"...You are Okay You are Safe xx

[anon99 in reply to Agora1]

I’m scared, Agora. I feel wobbly like I’m sliding off the earth. And the lights are bright..

[Agora1 in reply to anon99]

You are over breathing honey I've been there so I know what you

mean. If you can find a quiet place where you can relax for a few minutes

you might be able to slow down your breathing and get that oxygen throughout

your body... I'll be here

[anon99 in reply to Agora1]

I feel a little better... still anxious and uneasy. 🥺🥺🥺

[Agora1 in reply to anon99]

Make sure you do eat something as well as hydrate

and Breathe xx

[Hidden in reply to anon99]

I get that feeling like you ‘sliding off the earth’ ! .. I’ve had it numerous times over the years .. It is Anxiety.. Breath slowly like Agora has explained. You will be ok.

[anon99 in reply to Hidden]

How do you cope with that feeling?

[Hidden in reply to anon99]

Years ago, when i was young it would terrify me. Now older, I understand better that it is ‘fear’, that triggered or triggers off the Anxiety symptoms.

A negative subconscious thought may start a fight or flight sensor, the physiological reaction to danger. Anxiety symptoms are then triggered, but made worse by the fear of the Anxiety symptoms, it’s like we are feeding the fear, but not intentionally.

In my head, at the time it happens, I get panic thoughts, what will people think, If they ask if I am feeling well that will make me worse (more panic) to fuel fear, how will I explain i’m ill I need a GP, (more panic), I need the Hospital what if they show no empathy (more panic again), at this point the Anxiety symptoms are at full speed worsening.

We have to learn to break the circle, by learning techniques such as, slowing our breathing down, being in a quiet still place, reinforcing the thoughts, that we are safe and that it will go away. I tell myself that these are Anxiety symptoms, I am not going to die. This vile feeling will pass soon.

These feelings occur because my ‘fight or flight’ has gone into overdrive to protect myself. I talk to myself, sometimes laugh and tell myself, everything will be ok.

Then I spend hours or days analysing why it occurred in the first place. At this stage I reinforce the thoughts that this is a kind of a learnt behaviour. It’s my body and mind overprotecting me. I look after myself, empathise with the Anxiety, that I know it is trying to protect me, but instead it is overwhelming me, there is no need for it to do so, I am safe, I sort of ask it to move to one side.

Sorry if this is difficult for you to understand. I tried to write it as clear as I could, by running a replay in my mind of times I have experienced it. There has been many over the years. It has got better as I seem to control it, by using these techniques.

In the past whilst still learning techniques, I have ended up going to the Hospital, but after sitting in waiting room for an hour I seem to calm. Then I decide to not see a GP, and come home, go to bed and sleep, as the experience is exhausting.

Your looking after yourself by chatting on this Forum. Well done. Your never alone on here. x

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Heidi, I applaud you for the work you put into helping yourself. xx

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

😊Thank you Agora1... xxx

[Zhiyah1012]

Your fine and you will be okay just eat I spent weeks worrying about a blood clot and never happened with the worst leg cramps and everything eventually I forgot about it

[anon99 in reply to Zhiyah1012]

I’ve been obsessing for weeks..

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

You’ll stop trust me then you’ll have something else to worry about like me it’s so exhausting

[anon99 in reply to Zhiyah1012]

Yes now it’s cancer or coronavirus or a brain bleed ☹️

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

Yes I was obsessing about a brain bleed a couple weeks ago and now it’s corona again this how all my anxiety started from corona I’m so terrified of having it ... cancer is literally my worst fear

[anon99 in reply to Zhiyah1012]

🤦🏻‍♀️ i literally convince myself I have all of these things. Then I feel normal and think how silly was I... then it’s like well I mean maybe it’s happening right now in your body. Then it’s car wrecks. I hate it all so much. I was doing good and past two days it’s been really really bad.

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

Yeah I feel you I was worried about cars too at one point of time that went away . I went to Home Depot and Walmart without a mask because I forgot which was so dumb and was so paranoid for 14 days now I’m being paranoid for another 14 days

[anon99 in reply to Zhiyah1012]

I went to Walmart yesterday and forgot my mask and this lady said “maybe they should get corona and then they’ll wear a mask” and I feel like she gave me bad juju. but me too. I’m always on edge idk how people live normally.

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

Im sure you will be okay , did most people have there masks on ? , I was washing my hands so much in beginning my hands got dry and turned darker than my actual skin color I had to get some type of cream from my doctor I just couldn’t help it

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

I wish I could not care like others or my friends who think I over think or panic but I simply cannot help it

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

I’m always scared they’ll find something in my blood test like cancer , diabetes idk something

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

Everyday it’s something new I know people are tired of me on this forum🥺

[anon99 in reply to Zhiyah1012]

Me too.. I hold back from posting but it literally helps me so much. I’m here if you ever wanna or need to talk

[Zhiyah1012 in reply to anon99]

Yes thankyou !! Same to you anytime !