Comparing yourself to other people

[PastelPink20]

How do you regulate your social anxiety?

I just met someone who’s going to be my roommate at college because I guess I’m “ready” to move out. I have been freaking out about all of this for weeks.

Anyways, I just texted them and we exchanged a little intro about ourselves. I just feel worse about myself in reading about her. She’s super nice. But, she’s way busier than me.

I guess, I feel like I’m not as good because I’m not doing more than her - isn’t that sad? To what degree is life a competition? I’m already afraid she’s going to find out that I’m fake and not actually as good a student as her or as hard of a worker or something.

I wish I wasn’t constantly seeking external validation. 🤔😭

[Louise223]

Hi!

I personally struggled with similar feelings when I went to university two years ago. At first meeting everyone I was going to live with for the next year felt like utter madness! How I coped with comparing myself to them, as this is definitely something I did at school, was to actually recognise our differences. We were all from different places within the UK, talking about our home towns/what our schools were like, was a great ice breaker and got a good discussion going.

Hope this helps