Despair

[Jimmyspadge]

So frustrated/ mentally tired and I can’t break this cycle. The problems that caused me to be like this are still there and getting my family and I into a horrendous situation. They are to do with financial issues/work issues amongst other problems and have got out of control. My wife now hates me and wants me to leave. She rants at me when I try to explain how I feel and rightfully so has had enough of it all. I can’t go. My four children are at home . ( currently using Claire Weekes practice of acceptance for the symptoms) but all the problems I have are still there and are creating other problems of the same nature, so I feel trapped in a vicious cycle. The thoughts I have are now leading to only one way out. But how can I go down that route as it’s a totally selfish act leaving my children with mental scars for the rest of their lives. I just feel in a stagnant and static place. I can just sit at home feeling sorry for myself or do something about it, but I cannot seem to do anything about anything. Just feel like I want to sleep after typing this. I pray for help and guidance even though I am not really religious.

I am totally aware that no pill or even therapy can help with the issues I have which have led up to this kind of mental depletion and not just myself but others in similar situations.

[Agora1]

Hi Jimmy, I know I've answered your post once before regarding Dr. Weekes' philosophy

in dealing with anxiety but let me take it a step further.

I hear and understand every word you are saying in your post. Once we get into that

cycle of fear, we get no where. We are not good for ourselves or our families.

Plus physical symptoms come up that are related to this undue stress, mainly high blood

pressure.

So what do we do when we find ourselves spinning our wheels and going no where?

We all have something in our lives that we have no control over. Acceptance of what we

have before us is the first step. But then we have to go one step further in order to get

out of that rut. And that is our reaction to what we have to deal with.

Getting yourself mentally stabile. Separating what we can fix and what we can't.

Finding another path in handling your finances and/or job issues.

Mental issue does not have to mean that we sit and watch life go by and just exist.

The more we are non active in life, the more people around us pull away and we find

ourselves alone.

Giving up is never the answer. Working on yourself first, loving yourself can be the

first step in going forward. When Plan A doesn't work, we need to look to a Plan B.

I am not a doctor or therapist but go strictly on my own life experiences. I hope you

find your way through this. Your 4 children need their dad. xx

[Jimmyspadge in reply to Agora1]

From the bottom of my heart I thank you so much for such wise words. A lot of things have hurt me and you picked up on something regarding friends leaving oneself. This has happened and also my kids are distancing themselves from me. I am so sad and lonely right now and crying like a baby. You may well of given me the push I so desperately need xx

[Agora1 in reply to Jimmyspadge]

Sometimes, that's all it takes Jimmy, for someone who's been there, for

someone who cares. This is such a great forum. It's okay to lean on

others while we walk the journey together. xx

[Jimmyspadge in reply to Agora1]

Thanks again. I know that the words you said in your first reply are spot on. I do find accepting the things I cannot change very difficult to handle. I must learn. I suppose the acceptance that Dr Weekes mentions applies in a similar way x

[Yasyass]

Don’t worry stress and anxiety is difficult but you will get over it you have four lovely children who need you I had a ha was feeling fine until a test result said hf severe damaged heart my world turned I really have to battle with myself to fight thru the anxiety but hope I will beat it I don’t think anyone can understand unless they have experienced these feelings I have been thru a lot of emotions sadness wars living far from family but in the end faith keeps me going and life is too short too worry enjoy your life with your children

[Everydayisastruggle]

Pray