Ever since my grandpa got sick

My life has felt like a nightmare. He went downhill so fast, no one saw it coming. He doesn't make any sense when he talks anymore which is so unsettling because ye was always such a put together person. Now he can't eat. He doesn't know he's in the hospital. He barely knows who I am. He is my last close family left. I was named after him. Why do we live just to suffer and die at the end? I don't want this. I don't know what to do.

[Agora1]

My heart breaks for you. The best thing you can do right now is to

be there for your grandfather. We don't really know what people

in that stage understand or not. But love always seems to get through

and comforts the ill person.

As for you "someone", use us as a safe place to come and express your

fears. Knowing that there are people around you who care about you

may help lighten the stress. Sending you love and courage. Breathe xx

[Fireman2244]

I just messaged you. I have had experience dealing with similar situations. If you'd like to talk, I'm here

[Funkyfaerie]

Dear Someone,

I totally understand you, my Father went exactly the same way last year, he suffered for 6 months like that, it was heartbreaking to see. My only consolation was that he didn't know anything about it.

Dementia is such a cruel disease, it takes away the person you have known and loved all your life. My Dad was 90 when he died and he'd always had a bad heart, I thought he would be taken quickly from us one day... But this was horrible.

I can't take your pain away, but Jyst make the most of him while he is still around.

Take care of yourself too, as my panic attacks and anxiety levels were through the roof, but I had to keep going. xx

[Boubis]

Hello my dear. I understand you as well.

I grew up with my Grandma, mostly. A great woman, strong and kind.

We used to sleep in the same bed, I refused to sleep without her, as a child.

In her last year, she did not recognise me anymore, or my brother. She kept looking at me, saying how beautiful I am, but had no idea who I was. She was talking non-sense, she was sad, she could barely walk. I used to cry myself to sleep and now, as I write, tears come down my face.

She was my everything. She passed away on a cold October night, and then I knew, she is in a better place, probably happy, and young again.

It is so unfair to see our loved ones like this.

Cherish every second , while he is still around.

[Ollyvie]

Responds

Hello dear, am so sorry to hear about your grandfather’s condition. I can understand how you feel. The fear and the uncertainty of your grandfathers’ condition. I pray and hope that your grandfather get better. Its so unfortunate that sometimes sickness take the best part of our lives. I went through this with my mother. It was challenging at first, But I kept telling and showing her how much I loved her. Most of the time she just smiles and didn’t response. Focus on the good memories you guys shared. Stay strong and take care of yourself too. Check this out and I think you might find it helpful bit.ly/2SwyQDx