So I never thought I’d be writing this on a forum... but here we go.... I have a severe phobia of becoming pregnant. Pregnancy is something that is extremely terrifying to me. I am currently not sexually active due to this fear yet I still convince myself that I will become pregnant. I don’t know why this happens..
Side note*** saying things like “a baby is a beautiful thing” or “if you are given a child it’s bc you can handle it” or “being pregnant is beautiful” or anything along those lines is very triggering to me so please do not mention those things. Thank you
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Not particularly. I had my first pregnancy scare back when I first started experimenting with my boyfriend. Ever since that day I’ve just never been the same. I realized how afraid of becoming pregnant I was and it continues to haunt me now
Thank you again lizbeth for being so frank. I can better understand how that first scare might have traumatized you. My suggestion might be to talk with your Gynecologist
who will be able to address your fears and concerns both psychologically as well as
Yea that’s what’s been helping me lately. I’ve also been taking medication to treat my anxiety as well as going to therapy. They’ve both helped but I feel as though I let myself get carried away from things I read online
If you’re not prepared to be a mother it’s not un usual to fear getting pregnant . My daughter never wanted to be a mother, it’s NOT for everyone...that is your choice. She’s married and has two dogs, one cat and a horse....that’s her immediate family:)♥️
Be celibate or use birth control but don’t think it’s a phobia not wanting to be pregnant... it’s a choice every woman decides for herself...when or not at all. :):):)😍
It is a very understandable fear and not one to be ashamed of at all. We are not responsible for our fears. I think it is probably more common than you think also.
It is a very understandable fear and not one to be ashamed of at all. We are not responsible for our fears. I think it is probably more common than you think also.
Yea I’ve been going to therapy and I am unsure at the moment about having kids in the future due to this fear. I’ve heard the term used to describe my phobia before but I’ve never mentioned it to my therapist. Maybe mentioning it will help her get a better understanding of what I am going through
I have the same fear. Not to the same degree, but it still causes issues between my husband and I. It doesn't help that my antidepressant makes my libido non-existent too. I've been too embarrassed to mention that fear in therapy, but your post really hit home for me and has given me a push to talk about it, so thank you. I hope you can find a good therapist that can help you as well.
Thank you. I hope you receive the help you need. I know how lonely it can be when you live with this fear and don’t speak about it. Don’t be afraid to speak about it, this post has shown me that others feel the same way I do especially when I thought I was the only one.
Yes I am catholic and my family is very religious. I guess for me it’s the sexual guilt it comes with as well as the fear of having a child. It all just kind of mixes in together
As far as I can tell, this fear really seems to be based in your religion (as you've alluded to), and that's not to say non-religious people "don't care if they get pregnant" - it's just that for a non-religious person the repercussions (both real and perceived) are either different or non-existent.
I'm sure the fear is very real, but I think the fear must be:
1) pregnancy is "undeniable proof" of sexual activity
2) most religious people are anti-abortion and therefore there's no guiltless fix
Yea. I relate to everything you’ve said. Sadly I was raised that way and no matter how much I want to change my beliefs, it feels as though I’m trapped in my own head
I was raised catholic too. I got pregnant out of wedlock and at 17! I wasn't going to church. I was scared also and then I just didn't care. I moved out with the dad and ended up having another one at 21. I left him for reasons I dont wish to share. I started going back to catholic church and yes we were instilled that it's a mortal sin and all. I am now a Christian and I've understood that we all fall short and will sin. I have forgiven myself and the mistakes I've made and I don't see my kids as mistakes, just their dad lol but Jesus came for sinners not saints. The problem is our sinful nature, we want to do what's pleasing to us, our bodies, our flesh. It's normal. I am now married (not kids dad) and we waited till we got married and it's so freeing. Idk how old you are or if you go to church but that's something you should really pray about and think about as far as your relationship with God, if you believe. And like another reply said, you fear it because it's an outward appearance of sin committed. You can't hide that like you would watching porn or other things. I know that was it for me but I know I am forgiven. Good luck.
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