I face anxiety when speaking in public and when i talk i tend to mix up words.
Even when i speak i tend not to put my communication in clear sequence and it is messed up. Is there anyone like me and how can i become better in the fastest way.
Also i blush a lot especially when i am the center of attention and i never know why.
Thank you.
Same here.
When i blush i feel it then i embarrassed cuz im blushing and blush even more.
Sorry i dont know how not to blush.
I have the same issue but I feel myself overcoming this issue more and more lately, especially since I’m in a startup company & my position is essential to it , so in meetings, my opinions are useful.
For one , I don’t overthink my statements anymore “is this gonna sound right?” “No, this sounds stupid” <<< those thoughts would consume me , so when I found myself thinking these things , I wound up stuttering and saying “uhhh” a lot. Not good.
I would inhale and exhale ...then think that I was speaking , as if someone I loved , like a friend or partner , was in the room with me. Me picturing a sense of familiarity in the room , helps me lol. That whole “picture everyone naked bit” works BUT not for long ( for me ) , but it works in the sense that you’ll laugh for a bit to yourself then I collect myself and speak.
Basically, YOU command the room. People want to hear what you got to say. If they don’t, make them. Be confident that YOUR words matter. If you don’t believe in your opinions and thoughts and feel insecure, people WILL sense that. Idk how but they do and that’s when you’ll get people snickering or laughing or getting distracted. Command the room by standing by what you say. Do not over think anything.
Also , for a while ( I still do) , WRITE EVERYTHING OUT on a sheet of paper or flash cards for a presentation lol. It’s corny but works . Keep doing this until you feel confident without it .
What about medications which are easier , have u tried any? Did u go to a therapist or it was all by yourself? Thanks.
I mean I had been put on Anxiety meds but my experience? Didn’t work with me. It did mellow me out but also came with it’s own bag of effects, that wasn’t the best. I was Agoraphobic for years.
I then leaned on natural things like herbs and cleaner diet, chilled on the alcohol.
Now, I journal my thoughts daily , eat cleaner and I literally always have chamomile tea...a small cup every other 2 days or every other day...then get a little break from it . I drink a little cup in the morning then at night. I also have lavender in my room.
If I run out of the tea...it’s been the foods I eat , like avocados and berries and kiwis .. something rich in magnesium & other vitamins that help to calm someone.
Everyone’s different ,though.
When I’m around ppl, the tea has helped, along with the tips i gave. Do your research with herbs though & find what would work with you because most of these teas are like an herbal blend.
Hi,
Sorry to hear that Social anxiety is having this terrible effect on you, I sufferd for years with blushing, ESFB if you type that into Google it sends you to a useful website.
You can use green tinted make up, beta blockers and CBT.
Kat
I face this too when speaking in public.
When I was younger I used to blush a lot and someone gave me a tip to help this. When you feel yourself blushing pretend to cough, this takes the attention away from your blushing. Long term, you can cbt would properly help you.
Hi there
Ask your primary dr for a script for propanol 10mg, it’s an older blood pressure med that’s used for social anxiety and a fear of public speaking. You can take 5-10 mg 30 minutes before and it slows your heartbeat and BP and you can take as needed. No real side effects, lasts about 4 hours and helps with blushing 😊 hope this helps
I have already taken 10mg of propanool. But didnt work well for me
It sounds like you have the symptoms of social anxiety disorder. I grew up having very similar symptoms as you and thought I was just shy and then eventually was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder. It wasn't until later that I realized I had social anxiety disorder which requires different understanding and treatment. Once that happened, I was able to recover.
I highly recommend getting help by finding a therapist that specifically treats social anxiety. if there isn't one near you, there are some online affordable programs available. There wasn't a social anxiety therapist near me at the time so I used an online program. You can learn new skills to understand, manage and recover from it, it's definitely doable.
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