Advice needed

[beth_stephens97]

Recently my anxiety’s been quite bad, when I started seeing someone new it intensified, I constantly worry that he won’t be able to handle me or that somethings going to go wrong to the point I’m physically in tears because of it, I’ve tried medication but it messed with my heart rate, I’ve tried the breathing exercises and they dont really help, I don’t want to be so overwhelmed by it every day and I honestly don’t know what to do

[1uglychild]

Hi, New relationships are usually stressful, it goes hand in hand with excitement and joy. First don’t let yourself be stressed because of the anxiety, that anxiety is something almost every normal person feels at the start of a relationship. If you get stressed about the anxiety then you’re only adding to the worry you’re carrying. You need to focus on realizing the fears you have about it all are just fears, it’s not reality. We can never be the other person so trying to anticipate how they feel or what they will do is pointless. You’ll drive yourself crazy with worry. What you have to do is continue to focus on you and whatever you’ve been doing to cope and make your life better until this point, no relationship is ever strong when one of the partners isn’t happy or content within themselves. You’ll never be happy with him because you aren’t content with yourself. Remember the person that you were when he met you, was the person he liked, so keep being that person.