Anxiety at night

[franmm]

I’ll be next to my partner and all I want is for them to talk to me until I sleep. Anything, random words. I feel alone next to them and like no one understands. So I start having an attack and go so he can’t hear me. My anxiety attack’s happen almost every night. Can anyone relate and what helps?

[ChicagoGirl1961]

Why not try an audio book?

[Blurry62]

Its terrible to feel alone. People may love us and wish they could help but, they just can't provide constant distraction for brains/emotions working over time. . I say my prayers and then listen to a low key audio book or calming sleep music. Every single night. Otherwise my mind won't rest. Give it a try. I find that a well moderated make voice works best for me.

[Blurry62 in reply to Blurry62]

Male.....a male voice... Not make

[LadyO4]

Thanks for sharing. I can tell some of your anxiety comes from a desire to be heard, understood, listened to, appreciated, wanted, and loved at a deeper level. I have felt the same way with my husband.

Have you ever had an opportunity to express to him exactly how you feel? That what you are asking for doesn't sound like anything above and beyond the norm?

I would also be interested in knowing if this was the start of your anxiety, and if not, how long you have experienced anxiety. Uncovering the root cause of it will help determine what to do about it. There are many options a person has to balance out their hormones and the rest of their biochemistry. I would be happy to share more if you'd like.

Any approach a person takes to feel better needs to include the physical, spiritual, and emotional aspects of anxiety because all three are involved, and when one is hurting they all hurt. That's how we are wired together as humans.

Feel free to write back if you'd like.

[franmm in reply to LadyO4]

Yes you’re exactly right!

I’ve spoken to him before about it but it doesn’t seem to get me anywhere, he doesn’t really understand anxiety or depression at all.

He just sees it as me being dramatic, me emotional crying all the time.

I’ve experienced anxiety for years now and I have no idea why it started but there has been a few events in my life which all together bought me some mental trauma.

But I’d love to hear more about balancing hormones.

Thank you!

[LadyO4 in reply to franmm]

Balancing hormones is actually very easy when you go to the right kind of doctor for help. Traditional doctors, also known as conventional doctors of Western Medicine, have bought into the idea that drugs is all a person should ever expect to help them, where in reality, a functional doctor specializing in endocrinology will go into all the systems of your body to pinpoint where the problem is and what caused it in the first place. It's very possible something went amiss in your biochemistry that triggered all the stress you feel.

What typically happens is that when cortisol gets released from your adrenal glands on a regular basis for a prolonged period of time, from a change in your biochemistry, (a crisis, a threat, a broken relationship, unmet expectations, a death, or any other traumatic experience), the brain locks in those patterns and decides to send high levels into your bloodstream throughout the day when you actually don't need them - thus producing the symptoms of stress or depression.

When you go see a functional doctor to see what went wrong in your system, he/she will check your saliva, urine, stool, and blood, to get the big picture of how everything affects each other inside your body, and take steps to correct each one until all your body systems are functioning the way they should.

I hope this helps explain it a little better.