Grief and loss

[RachieW]

So two weeks today I lost my Dad after a reasonably short Cancer battle. I watched him melt away and suffer for a year and have been dealing with all his affairs before and after his death. I was with him when he passed away and it broke me. As of yet I haven’t grieved and can’t seem to let it out. Every now and then I have a few minutes where I feel it might come flooding out but I feel that I can’t do it. I’m finding it’s really heightened my depression and anxiety issues and I’m becoming reluctant to do anything and leave the house, every day I have to do battle with myself and it’s getting exhausting! Every morning I wake up with the same headache I fell asleep with. I feel so alone in my grief as I feel like I can’t explain to my family.

[kenster1]

hi im deeply sorry to hear this my friend.its really sad news.my thoughts go out to you family and all your dear dads friends.cancer is a terrible disease if its any comfort to you he is now pain free.as you know my dad had cancer also and im still not grieving nearly 6 month down the line.im on another page called bereavement care and share and its really very helpful and supportive.all of us have suffered loss.here anytime take care and god bless you all.

[designguy]

Sorry for your loss, but the best thing you can do for yourself and what your father probably would have encouraged you to do is go to a grief counselor or therapist. They are trained in helping you get in touch with your grief and feelings and in how to constructively process them enabling you to get on with your life.

[RachieW in reply to designguy]

Thank you, I have my monthly follow up with my mental health nurse next week anyway so probably will be offered that as they mentioned it last time I spoke with them before he passed

[art62grammie]

I know the death of dad was horrible. We all have our own way of grieving. I have lost a brother at age 44, eighteen years ago. Watching those loved ones die is not easy. I come to peace with it. That is to realize that they are no longer suffering from pain. They are in a much better place. There are some things worse than death. Suffering is hell in itself. You take care. Thinking of you.