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Still trying

Got the book. Put everything into practice. Was doing good for 3 weeks. Then Bang. Anxiety returns.

This time with a 3 day thumping headache, racing heart and a few intrusive thoughts.

Trying to float though them and be in the moment.

So bloody hard.

Getting on with the morning. Think I’ll clean the house. That sometimes helps.

Hope everyone has a fab Sunday!

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Keep going and you will be fine..

If you find that cleaning the house doesn't help them find something else to do that will give you a bit of a challenge, make you think.

Have a fab day yourself, chat with me if you need to. 😊

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Thanks Jimmyjimmy. 😊

I’m going to put some music on and clean up. This normally works with me singing my head off 😂 dancing through the feelings and thoughts !

Thank you. Nice to know your there. ⭐️

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I'd do that but I'm not sure my neighbours would appreciate it 😂

You are welcome 😊

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😂 I’m with you but times like these. Music is needed.

I’m no headbanger lucky for them. Something soothing.

I’m armed with a hover and cloth. Should they knock 😂

😊

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Yeah I like the music too, soothing tunes but a bit of headbanging stuff too sometimes.

If they do knock will you hoover them? 😁

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I love music. I like most music. Not so much heavy metal thou. Haha. I range from Sinatra (from my dad) to Rap, pop, easy listening, I am a indie girl at heart. UK indie.

Hoover them up!? 🤣 I was thinking more of soon as I open the door they know I’m in full force cleaning mode!

They should never approach a lady with a hoover! anything could happen 🤨😂

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Im not big into heavy metal to be honest... Lots of eighties music and some seventies too.. ska and punk for me mainly, I like most music though.

I'd deffo give a wide birth to a lady in full force cleaning mode, hope I'm not putting you off your polishing now 😂

Anything? Erm I need mind bleach now 🤣

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Ooo I’m Queen of the 80s! Best time for cheesy stuff. Love it. Punk !? I can say I’ve had my hair most colours but didn’t really get into the music to much. The Jam was all I listen too. If you can call that punk! 👩🏼‍🎤

I’ve stopped for a coffee. I’m on my balcony I have some mean views of London where i live. Beautiful

I have a cupboard full of cleaning stuff should you need a cleanse 😂 ⭐️

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You have good taste then.. some good cheesy songs back then alright.. but some amazing songs too. So you were very colourful back then..the jam were great, links then they went Mod.

Coffee on a balcony with a great view of London, that sounds pretty good. What can you see?

Erm I'm sure it will pass 😂

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Loved the style council too.

Yes. Colourful in my younger days!

Oh I can see St. Paul’s. The Microphone building. The London eye, the shard to name a few! Night time is magical. All twinkling lights. 🌃

Ermm. Ok 😂

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I liked them but they dressed like deck chairs 😶

Are you black or white now or what? 😉

Wow! What a view, could sit looking at that all day long, you are lucky.

Well if it doesn't pass I might give you a shout 😂

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Deckchairs 😂

It’s Sunday! Still in PJs white haha

Thank you. I am lucky. It’s beautiful up here. 😊

Ok. I’ve got you 😂

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I'm still in mine too, but i should go get dressed shortly, I have been up for four hours already, I suppose Sunday mornings are for taking I easy though.

White, did you have colourful PJ's in the eighties or was it just the hair? 😁

You are up high then?

I'll let you know 😁

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Sunday’s are fab till 8pm the you realise it’s a few hours till work 😩

I’m going to hit the cleaning again. Coffee done

Haha. Just the hair. Loved a bit of colour me. Was all the rage back then. I’m brown now, back to normal.

Not a high rise block. It’s called a Mansion block, old building. Beautiful thou. But not an actual mansion that’s huge and all that!

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Have a lovely day Sunday Jimmy! ⭐️

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You too Miss-P74 ☕

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Work on a Sunday!! Not for me... I'll think of you working when I'm sitting here trying to decide if I'll have a nap or not 😉

Is this cleaning malarky a hobby of yours or something, you seem to be enjoying it 😶

I had colour in m hair too once or twice, l looked like a paint brush though so I quit doing it.

Oh, I think I know what you mean, it sounds really great.. lucky you!

Chat later and enjoy that cleaning, don't be sucking up any neighbours 😉

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Oops sorry I meant after 8pm you realise it’s work Monday!! (My dry humour 🙄)

Well. I quite a clean person. Like clean and fresh home. So as I work. I go mad cleaning on a Sunday. 😄

Yes. I’d Quit with the colour too 👩🏼‍🎤😂

Yes. Chat soon. 🕺🏻

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I'm off tomorrow thank flop! Day of rest for me and everyone in my house is away for the week, so I'll be able to do stuff I want to do.. 😁

I clean too but not for fun, how can it be fun 😂🤣

If you ever got a bit of grey, would you colour it again? 😋

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Empty house is the one! Love it when everyone’s doing there stuff and leaves me a little peace for hour or so.

Cleaning can be fun. 😂 best music and a little wiggle and your on your way to cleanness !

Oh yes. Have to remove the grey. I did that last week 😁👋🏼bye grey hair! Haha

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I got a whole week of peace 😁

Cleaning can't be fun that's silly, music can be and maybe a wiggle but deffo not cleaning 😂

Got lot have you? 😉

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Wow. A whole week! I wouldn’t know what to do with myself!

Haha. Yeh. I get you. Cleaning can be a little annoying at times. But the after results is fab. Tidy home is a tidy mind (think I’ve got that right 🤔)

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I'm working it except for tomorow, I'll find stuff to do the other evenings.

Oh right, I'll have to remember that, you are an inspiration I can't wait to get cleaning now 🙄

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I work too Monday -Friday up like my sofa after work thou, but also got to keep busy with this anxiety life , taking it with me on nights out with friends. It’s like an affair, becoming the other lover 🤭😂

Haha. Your sarcasm is great. Next time you clean your love it. 🕺🏻

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So after work you sit on the sofa and do nowt?

So you and Ann actually go out together.. I dumped mine ages ago, got on my nerves she did and wouldn't buy me a drink either. 😂

Next time I clean my what!? 😨

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Well I wouldn’t say I do nothing.! I cook and do washing Not out too much on a work night I like weekends. Relax more then

🤣😂 Yeh. I take her with me mostly. Tight old 🐮 ain’t she

Oh I see you don’t Help out much then in the home is that as you work so hard 🙄

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I suppose breathing is doing something.. 🙄

Yep, never buys a drink, always grumpy and never shuts up.. I split up with mine ages ago, haven't seen her since!😁

I do as much as anyone else here plus I work the longest hours.. I like it when it's finished but it's because I feckin well hate it, not because it's satisfying or anything 😂

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I’m hoping to get rid of her soon myself too nasty she is I think we have a little way to go though before she gets the message ! Well done on shaking her off 🤝 what an achievement! Must be a fab feeling 🙏🏻

Oh that old one is it 😂

I’m joking 🙃

I do like working only on a Friday though 😊

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Divorced her a couple of years ago, she does pop in from time to time but it's very rare and I know how to handle her now.. it does feel great though I must say 😀

Are you joking about being upside down or are you joking about the old one? 🤔

What's so special about Friday?

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I could deal with that. Every now and then. Perfect relationship! Aww. Really happy for you 😁

Haha. Joking about the old chestnut comment.

What’s so special about Friday!?!? 😳

It’s the freaking WEEKEND ! 🤸🏻‍♀️

Family time !

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You will be free of it someday too, just wait and see 😊

So the upside down business was just you showing off was it? 🤔

Saturday is the weekend, have to work on Friday so it's the same as the other four days.. but you prob get sloshed on Friday night so I suppose it's different for you 😉

Family time indeed.

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I will be. Can’t wait!

Yes. I was showing off 😊 ha.

Friday is the start of the weekend. From 5pm for me. Sloshed. Gosh I hardly drink. I used to be a party girl. Then anxiety came so don’t drink anymore. Don’t like the day after. So I choose not too at the moment.

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You will indeed you have a great attitude towards it 😊

Yeah, what else can you do then.. miss smiley show off?

I don't drink much either, can make an ass of myself quite easily without it. I never got hangovers when I did drink but prob drank to much on a night out, the younger I get the less interest I have in it 😋

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One can only try and hope. Allow Time Dr Weeks says! So I’m allowing. Accepting and trying to float. That bit confuses me a little😐

Yeh. Anxiety and drink doesn’t go too well together with me. So best to just leave it alone for a while. I have the odd glass if out. But that’s it. I’m more of a cuppa t girl these days. At 44 my drinking days are not over yet. Just put a side for now. Haha. That’s what drinking to much is for right. Making an ass out of yourself 🤩

Oh I do lots of things. Just sprayed my whole flat with fly killer while chasing a huge moth about. Think I’ll drop dead first with the amount of spray I’ve used ☠️ hate flying things ewwww!

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I sorted mine myself, didn't use any books or help from anywhere, I just believed that life isn't supposed to be that way, I learned new things started to do old things again that I use to enjoy, more exercise then I was already doing. I got out of the negative thinking habit.

I like a cuppa too, I'm older than you (only by birth 😋) so I don't feel the need to drink much these days I'll get hammered the odd time though. Can still make an ass of myself, don't have drink as an excuse now 😂

I don't like moths or flys, I don't mind bees and stuff like that, butterflys are nice too. I'm not as evil as you by the sounds of it... Cruella.

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So I type a long reply and haven’t a clue what happened to it 😑 hasn’t posted ! Ffs

Here goes again!

I too believe life shouldn’t be this way

I had postnatal depression and a few bad relationships I think caused mine.

Then I didn’t like the feelings and the thought which came with anxiety. Scared the life out of me. I’m a confident woman always have been and couldn’t understand where all of it was coming from. Now an older person and I’ve learnt now it’s just over sensitised nerves and the fear adrenaline fear which causes the feelings.

So yeh. Letting time pass now and acceptance is key. So that’s what I’m hoping for. Recovery.

Haha. Older by birth!?!? Is there any other way of being older I don’t know about !?

Curella haha - I hate wasps and bees. They hurt. Butterflies 🦋 I like and are welcome. Anything else gets sprayed 😂

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That happen to me too, I type for ages and it disappears.

I have it off and on most of my life, grew up in a crazy country. It stopped for years then about three years ago a few things happened and boom! There it was again, had to do something about it. I trained my brain not to think negative thoughts constantly, now I'm almost always happy.

You sound like you had a tough time but I reckon you are on the way to beating it, you are very positive and you seem to be happy.

Olde by birth, means I'm older on paper and that's all. 😀😉

It must be horrendous in your house for insects, remind me not to come back as a London wasp.

Poor things 🤕

Enjoy your work today 😈😂

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That’s what I’m trying to do. Train the brain. -hard though when it’s been like a sort of habit (the anxiety) for so many years. Glad you have over come it. You sound “together” and that’s great. Crazy County haha. The world is crazy 😜 Life is hard at times. What you make it too right ? All we can do is try. And I am.

Haha. London wasps are mean. I don’t think you can be mean. Your be that butterfly 🦋

Thanks. And. Enjoy your “no work day”

Hi Ho. 🙋🏻‍♀️

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No, my country was really crazy when I was growing up, believe me.

Training the brain, keep learning new things, set goals and achieve, relax and exercise.. all helped me big time.

Yes life is hard at times same for most people. But you have your home and a job which gives you a headstart, a platform from which happiness can grow from. Life is hat you make it indeed 😊

Erm, I'm a wasp and I got a stinger with your name on it 😂 . Butterfly 🤣

Oh, I will 😊

See ya 👋

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I believe you! I’m sorry you had that experience growing up. Where are you living now?

Yes. Am training the brain daily.

Day 4 of Anxiety same old crap. I keep telling myself the rules. I’ve had a fab few weeks without it. So bit of a bummer to have a setback. But it will pass.

I have a gym pass. I need to use it more. Get them endorphins going again!

😂 you now where you can shove that stinger ! 🍑 😂 I’ll zap ya!

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I live in Northern Ireland where I grew up. But it's ok now, things have changed.

Day 4, think of something different to do that will make you think.

Yes get to that gym, exercise is one of the best things for anxiety... Give me a shout if you need any advice 🙂

I know exactly where an you won't be able to zap it either 😂

Haven't you got work to do?

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👋🏼 Hey. Ok. I get it now. I’m glad things have changed. 😊

Day 4! Yes. Chucked myself into work. I’m fine there sort of. Then I leave and it’s back again. I’m tired, wears me out the anxiety.

My plan is to get to the gym this week. Even for a 20 minuet run. Just need a break from the thoughts and feelings. It will come.

Haha. 🐝

Hope your day was better than mine!

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My day was ok, not as easy as I wanted but it was ok.

Chucked yourself, hope you landed on your head, would be a nice and soft landing 😋

Yes have a run. But make I harder or different every few weeks, if it's a bit o a challenge it will make you think about it more.

So as soon as you leave work your anxiety kicks in?

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Rise above the symptoms. Let them be there, let yourself feel everything anxiety has to offer. It has its limits so you’ve probably experienced the worst it can do to you. The only difference being that through the knowledge and understanding gained by following Dr Weekes’ teachings is that you gradually learn not to add you second fear to the situation which eventually diffuses anxiety and it fades away. Floating is about being ok about not feeling ok.

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I can ride out the feelings. It’s the thoughts that freak me out. So I’m working on that bit Beevee. They scare me more than the feelings. I know now how to accept the feelings. That’s going ok. It’s when the thought decides to jump in that gets me. I think the anxiety knows it’s not winning so comes back harder with the thoughts!

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Just remember that the thoughts won't harm you, they will go after a while. When you have the thoughts, look at something to give you different thoughts, change your thinking.

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😊 I will. I’m trying to allow them to just come and go, but then I feel the anxiety more.

I’m Anxiety free for few days now thou! No intrusive thoughts either. Maybe all the effort is working !

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Yes the effort is probably working, if you think something will take your mind off it all then do it.😀

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Yes. It works. Plus I have good teachers ! 😊

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Well there you go theñ..😀

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I struggled with the thoughts too, especially the ones that had my respect and questioned my feelings ( or lack of them) towards my wife. I became so anxious about that aspect, It spiked if the subject of divorce or couples separating came up! It wasn’t the content of the thought that was scary, it was the automatic reaction, the flash of fear, to the thought that was scary and found difficult to cope with. In time, I was able to see through the lie and that the thought wasn’t the problem, it was anxiety tricking me into thinking that i did have a problem. It took something akin to a leap of faith to let go of those thoughts but over time, I could glimpse the truth about our relationship and my feelings towards my wife and started to lose my respect towards the thoughts, not giving them the attention they needed to survive. They eventually lost their power to scare me and faded away. I can honestly say that I just don’t have those thoughts flash through my mind anymore. Even if I did, there is no anxiety to thrust them into the mind’s eye screaming for my attention. Peace of mind, if you will.

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Set backs are part of recovery, we have to accept even that. Three steps forward, one step back, you're still making progress.

I think there's a piece about setbacks in her book. Setbacks give the opportumity to practice acceptance, can't practice acceptance when you're feeling fine. You're doing well.

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Ah Jeff. Thank You. God knows I’m trying. Yes. Setbacks. I’ll guess I have to have them to get to the end. 3 days this one has lasted so far. With the monster headache too

Time right! ..... Letting time pass.

Hope your having a lovely weekend. 😊

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I too allow them the respect as the context to the thought is so powerful. Your right the flash of fear is comes in such a force and the automatic reaction you mention above rises so high over all my effort of recovery and sometimes I just can’t bring myself back from that yet.

Still something I’m working on. I will do this I know I can do it.

I too know it’s the anxiety messing with me The tricks it plays sometimes is unbearable. But when calm and past it I can see how it is just the anxiety acting up. Trying to keep me where I don’t want to be. Crazy how it can do that. It’s like another person who I don’t know.

Thank you for sharing your story. Means a lot to know the thoughts have happened to even the best of people who have recovered from anxiety.

I do trust your words Beevee and I’m grateful for your knowledge.

In time I know I will be past this and I will be in full recovery!

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The more you practice Claire Weekes techniques the easier it will eventually become, don't be disappointed with set backs, everyone has them, Rome wasn't built in a day, just give it time, your on the right path xxx

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Thanks Suzie482. 🌈 ⭐️

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