I'm feeling a little depressed

[Peacewithin1]

I wish I had someone I can call on the phone and just talk with. Usually people call me to pour out their problems while I just listen. At my age I should have a good friend to call on but I don't besides my Mom. Maybe I'm too choosy???

[HearYou]

Tanae,

Just a suggestion; when you're feeling the need to talk, why don't you call the people who use you as a sounding board. Just say "My turn". If you don't do that perhaps you don't trust those people. Or is the real issue is you don't want to listen to them? Perhaps you need to that over and decide which one, if either, or both, ring true and then decide what you want to do about it.

Take care and write here if you feeling depressed and need to be "heard." OK?

[Peacewithin1 in reply to HearYou]

I did try but I always end up listening lol... She also stated she's not a good listener lol

[Bluswife]

No at our agewe realizethat if they where a good friend then they would call just to see if u where ok and needed someone to talk to ..... I keep my circle small I do have one friend that calls and checks on me or calls just so I can vent and i do the same in return . I also write alot it helps that way I get if off my chest and either throw it away or it's in a note book it really does help

[Peacewithin1 in reply to Bluswife]

You're absolutely right! And that's why I honestly don't have friends like i did when I was younger and partying. I have a Godsister that looks to me for advice and a friend that has a busy schedule with her family which I understand. The one friend I thought I had turned out to be the total opposite unfortunately and we haven't really talked since December.

[Peacewithin1]

It's not dumb, I had tons of friends at the age of 12 to talk to on the phone. We even used to use 2way calling 😃

[Peacewithin1]

Wow Thank You, that is very thoughtful of You. I appreciate it!

[Bluswife]

Yes at 12 our promblems was the end of the world but so was all the other 12 year olds I think that's why it was so easy to talk to each other an have a tone of friendsnot everyone knows what anxiety and panic attacks do to u so alot of people don't want to listen there out look is everybody has stress get over it or it's in your head ..... When really we both know it's very real it's crippling to an extent and it makes realsonships very hard when all your adult girlfriends want to go out and call u 12 for dinner and drinks at 6. By the time u r supposed to be the your so panicked bout going out and the what ifs u just stay in and instead of listening to u and your fears the brush it off and the gos the friends.

[Peacewithin1 in reply to Bluswife]

Yes that's exactly what it is. I used to get invited to places all the time... still do but I don't have that one genuine person that understands so it's hard for me to be around them without possibly making them uncomfortable or taking away from the fun because of anxiety.

[kama24]

Lucky are those who have understanding compassionate friends. I am a senior and have only one person (besides my husband) whom I consider a real friend. You may know a lot of people but that doesn't mean they are true friends. Many simply do not want to listen to others problems.

[Peacewithin1 in reply to kama24]

Yes Yes Yes so true. I want to say thanks also Kama24, you suggested a while back the I run cold water on my wrist when I'm in panic and it stuck with Me. I do it and it actually helps me come back to reality. Thank You!

[kama24]

I am so glad my suggestion helps you. We are all open to ideas to help ourselves. This condition we battle with is a tough one. No one "cure" works for all people. If we all share and try to show empathy to each other, sometimes just that support means so very much.