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[Wyominganxiety]

My fiance works a ton seems like I'm always alone we went to the bar had a few drinks and he made plans to go out of town with a friend which I can't do because I suffer from anxiety and get sick everyone I am super sad that he would do this instead of spending time with me, can't help but have these thoughts that I'm losing him over my anxiety please help just wanna cry

[Peacewithin1]

Don't feel sad. I always tell my hubby to just go and don't stop living because I'm scared to go places. You can always chat with me or other people up here.

[Wyominganxiety in reply to Peacewithin1]

Just scared he will get tired of dealing with me and find somebody else guess it's probably my low self esteem

[HearYou]

Tanae's reply is simple and direct, and it appears to work in her marriage. You didn't indicate if you were receiving professional assistance with your anxiety. If you aren't, perhaps you should take another look at your relationship. You are hurt because your fiance would make plans with his friend without consulting you. You also write that he works a great deal, but the two of you were out together when he made those plans. So he does try to juggle his free time to be with you. You have a health condition like many other people.....some have heart conditions, some have lung and breathing issues, and you have an anxiety condition. If you are going to marry him if may prove to be very difficult marriage if you expect him to consult you and have your approval to do something because you have anxiety. He is going to be your husband, not your health care provider. Maybe it's time to consider some professional help and the consideration of an emotional support dog to decrease your need to lean on your fiance and to improve your independence.

Best wishes with improving your situation.

[Bluswife]

When I met my husband 8 years ago I was getting over an epsiod I was very open with him and told him about everything. But I didn't have another one until December 2016 . And in my mind I knew he was getting tired of dealing with everything and was going to find someone eles but really he stuck with me I don't know what it's like to live with anxiety for years but the episodes come strong the last up to 36 months sometime s more sometimes less but this time it's effected my swallowing so I think that's why I am still haveing the anxiety and panic attacks but when they first start I can't get out of bed or function for about 3 months all I do is cry and panic oh it's bad never been as bad as it is now I haven't eating solids in two months this go around sucks but when everyone says good u have lost weight he's right there telling my I am pretty or that I am ok just what ever I need to hear I thinks it's because I opened up to him from the start