What should I do?

[ydal]

I love another and he is getting married in another 5months to some other girl who has been chosen by his parents he wants to go according to their orders. I don't think I will ever find love again what should I do... Is there anyway by which I can stop him or is there any by which I can overcome loving him. I wanted to marry him. How will I see him getting married to someone else. I need help what should I do? I then get these thoughts maybe I am less maybe I don't have those things...i really feel good with his voice being there constantly around me suddenly everything will end. Please help me.

[Hidden]

What does he want? If he loves you, he should be fighting to be with you, not marrying another woman. Maybe you need to let it go? I'm sure you'll love again Speaking from experience, sometimes it good to let people go...

[ydal in reply to Hidden]

I have tried distracting my mind talking to some other people but no nothing I don't even find them interesting. He said he will try but if it doesn't happen he said don't blame me for anything I can only try I can't hurt my parents.our religions are different. What if I feel like this forever hurt n jealous n that feeling that I couldn't have him n someone else has him now. How will I deal with that.

[greeneyes2 in reply to ydal]

Difficult situation but I agree with ElliottParker. Regardless of religion if he loved you he should try and be with you. Best wishes x

[ydal]

Yes that's what I get when I do the calculations . I think I will have to face the bitter consequences of falling in love.

[greeneyes2 in reply to ydal]

When I was young (16) I had a boyfriend who was a jehovah witness, he was great and very hot! He did however, 3 years later marry a jehovah witness girl and they are still together and happy.

I moved on but at the time I was so upset. We caught up a few years ago and keep in touch today. He remains happy and I love who I am with now so it all worked out ok.

I just wanted to tell you my little story in the event it may help. Every situation is different but I do wish you well whatever happens x

[ydal]

Thanks a lot guys. So for now I have shifted my work place coz i can't continue to be in such relationship...it will hurt me more if I stay until he gets married.I Am going in another state. I hope I learn to live with this. N also if he is ready I should be ready too. If he is letting it go I should also do that.

[greeneyes2 in reply to ydal]

You sound so nice, if it's meant to be.... see what happens x

[Betty30]

The plain simple truth is: yes, for awhile it will hurt...you will constantly think about it, but you STILL have to keep telling yourself: THIS WILL PASS... I don't know if you have a job or not...but even if you don't...I believe what will help you most is keeping busy with something OUTSIDE of your home...do volunteer work of some kind if you don't have a job... There is nothing that helps US more than helping others... No, you won't get over this in a day...but it does HELP to talk to yourself and keep telling yourself: this is truly how I feel now, but I WILL get past it... Best wishes to you.

[ydal in reply to Betty30]

Thanks a lot.