Death

[Jodz]

Why am I constantly thinking about death ? I'm always saying I'm next . I'm 52 and feel like my times up . I can't stop it's bloody destroying me .

[RyRywifey]

Soooo this is what I'm gonna say, as I ALWAYS say, age is not real, for it is an illusion. You're still young!!!! You have to know that and FEEL that!!! Contrary to all the negative talk in society, people are living longer and LONGER AND LONGER. You're not going anywhere anytime soon. It is a great time to be alive for the sole purpose that life is greatly expanding, before you know it, we will be immortals 😩And all this talk will be a thing of the past. I may sound crazy but things only sound crazy until they happen 😳This is anxiety doing this to you, trust me. And sounds like a little dose of depression now there as well.. you're fine and going to be fine. No time is up because time doesn't even exist. I hope you're feeling better today than yesterday. And I hope you have a nice weekend 😌💕

[Jodz]

RyRywifey thankyou for your reply . I'm still grieving with the loss of my niece due to suicide on the 13 th June and now going through real drama with work and I will be resigning , so yer my anxiety is through the roof and def depressed .Just really struggling ATM with everything it's sucks big time .😩 Just wish my mind would stop ✋ these thoughts . I'm constantly feeling sick and my heart rate is high . Just need to move forward but shit it's hard .😪

[mysmugcat in reply to Jodz]

So sorry to hear this. I lost my partner to cancer three months ago. Are you in the UK?

[Jodz in reply to mysmugcat]

No Australia

[Pinky0 in reply to Jodz]

I'm so sorry for your loss Jodz. Please don't be hard on yourself. Have a lot of rest. Eat well. Exercise when you feel ready. You deserve to live how you would prefer to live despite what's happened. I hope it gets easier for you. x

[Jodz in reply to Pinky0]

Pinky 23 thanx but it's very hard , I am trying 😘

[Hidden]

It could well be you who knows, you don't have to be old to die, you can die at any time. Best get out there and live each day as though it's your last because one day it is going to be.

[Jodz in reply to Hidden]

I realise we all will die but I have a massive fear ??

[Hidden in reply to Jodz]

Courage is the key. I'm 50 myself my boss at 61 has been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. I'm afraid just as much as you. My mother died at 45 my father at 39. There's nothing you can do about it all. Death is coming that is certain but don't dwell on it.

[Jodz in reply to Hidden]

TimTim22 I def know that but just really hard .

[Gambit62]

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[Jodz in reply to Gambit62]

Thankyou Gambit62 will check it out

[Maribee]

I'm so sad to read your story. I am 76, have 2 inherited diseases, have escaped death once by the skin of my teeth....so I know....that death, is nothing to fear.

It is nothing at all.

You cannot remember before you were born...so you will know nothing when you've gone.

It's silly to say not to worry, but I think the others are right, the loss of somebody close, in those circumstances is very traumatic and you need time to come to terms with it.

I've just divorced my husband after 40 years of domestic abuse, alienated by him(their stepfather) from my 3 adult children by his lies and vengeance so I feel abandoned, although my brothers and sister and many good friends all support me, so I too am traumatised. I have to sell my home, find somewhere else, go back to court as he s trying to turn me out of my home....it's not what I expected at nearly 80 years old....having treasured my children and been a good wife to him...but I cannot do anything but my best to survive this.....

If you really can't cope get some bereavement councilling, or see your GP.

Life is so short, we shouldn't waste it.

Put yourself first for a change.BE STRONG.you know you have it in you somewhere.

Good luck...?Mari.

[Jodz]

Maribee I'm so sorry for your loss as well and your right you should not be going through that at nearly 80 wishing you all the best x

THANKYOU your words really sunk in . Yes I need to live my life tell the bloody anxiety to piss off , ride my horses and be with my family and not let this control me. I miss my niece Lee so so much my heart ❤️ just breaks but she would hate to see me sad after what she has been through . . Thanx again 😘

[Anxiouspony12]

I have always had a fixation with death since I was a very young child. I find all aspects of it fascinating and there can be a romance to it. In writing a horror book and I sing death metal. Here is an idea for you go for a walk in a lovely old cemetery. They are very peaceful places. I particularly like the angel statues in mine. You need to normalise death on some way. The funny thing is when you do that you actually want to have fun living. 😊And I'm younger than you and lost people at young age and I nearly died myself a few times.