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health anxiety and death

Emest86
Emest86
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what I really hate about myself right now is how when I hear about someone' passing away who is around my age I feel sadness get them and their family and friends but within 10 minutes I'm feeling anxious about my own health and wondering how they couldve died and if I might have whatever they had. I hate how selfish anxiety makes me. and along with that I hate the guilt because I shouldn't be thinking about myself at such a time. this is the only place I felt saying that. I'm sorry. big hugs xx

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Oh my goodness, I have been there, you are not alone. I'm sure that that many of us have been there! I know that I always think of myself too when I hear scary stories or sad stories. I don't know why it happens but my mum said that it happened to her too. Don't feel bad about it as you are trying your best and unfortunately anxiety is something that just doesn't often make any sense but one day it will get better and you will feel the anxiety ease. One of the ways that you can turn the focus on others is to perhaps send a card and present to those who are grieving. Pray for others often and everytime you think of your self or your health (too much) send someone an encouraging or an inspirational txt or message. I tried to send 3 encouraging messages a day to get myself to think of others and it brought more joy into my life. And I used to always pray just for myself more than I did for others, as I was too anxious to think of anyone, but then I tried changing my praying at times, to pray for others first (and for the world) before praying for myself to break away from that feeling of only thinking of 'me, me, me'. Hope this helps 😊.

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Emest86
Emest86
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thank you for that wonderful advice I'll be honest I am a very bad Christian but I do like the idea of sending encouraging texts to others when I feel I am thinking of myself too much. I have sent the family a poem and I hope it helps a small amount. thank you xxxx

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Aww that's good that you sent the poem. Try checking out Gabby Bernstein new book "Judgement Detox" if you can as if will help with thoughts on judging how you feel etc. And write a list of 25 things that you love at least once a week or even once a day because the more you focus on love the less the anxiety will take over! God is with you ❤️😇Xxx

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DeeM3

Totally understand... I do it too.

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Emest86
Emest86
in reply to DeeM3

thank you deem3 xxxx

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RyRywifey

I do this too smh, I’ve been like this for 2 years now and currently as we speak feeling overwhelmed with anxiety because of this same exact thing. I’ve found that social media makes it so much worse for me because random stories about something happening to someone will pop up in my timeline or on the explorer page and I’ll feel bad for their loved ones for a few seconds but almost immediately worry about myself and my health or the health of my daughter or the health of someone very close to me that I love and become overwhelmed with immense fear and feelings of impending doom smh

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Emest86
Emest86
in reply to RyRywifey

thank you ryrywifey it helps me to know I am not alone. I hope it gets better for all of us.xxxx

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hairyfairy

I`m the same. When David Bowie died I was so shocked because he wasn`t much older than me, & I was always a big fan of his. He died of liver cancer, & that set me worrying that I had it too.

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Emest86
Emest86
in reply to hairyfairy

thank you hairyfairy it's not a very helpful part of anxiety is it. but it helps to know I'm not alone. xxxx

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Anxious2befree

I am the same and then I have to know how they died and what their symptoms are then I constantly scan my body...ugh it's terrible

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Emest86

that's what I do too. I honestly feel so ashamed because I feel it's not very fair to the departed you know. health anxiety is cruel. thank you and big hugs xxxx

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marsbarr

Ernest; don't fret; I am the same way and I hate it.........My husband is a diabetic . and hearing his stories scares me and before I know it anxiety starts. His best friend is very sick right now from complications of diabetes and so is mine who's sciatic nerve has gone to the brain and I lost two classmates died this year. Yes I do all of the time. I hope you feel better

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Emest86
Emest86
in reply to marsbarr

it's awful isn't it. I'm sorry you've lost friends recently too. gentle hugs being sent your way. it's reassuring to know that I'm not alone but at the same time I hate that other people are suffering like this too. I wish I could wave a magic wand and cure us all I really do. thank you and big hugs xxxx

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Lvictoria81

Hey I'm literally the same way. Health anxiety is so different then regular anxiety. We constantly obsess over finding a "cure" to what is wrong with us. Don't feel so guilty I'm the same way. I feel selfish because the only time I feel better is when I'm sleeping and that's all I wanna do but being a mother and a stay at home mother doesn't quite work that way.

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Emest86
Emest86
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i want to sleep all day too and that makes me feel guilty also ny lad goes back to school tomorrow and i dont want him to go back but at the same time ive not been able to take him anywhere fun so it seems silly that i wouldnt want him to go to scjool and see his friends. i also struggle just doing daily jobs and my house looks terrible right now which makes me feel guilty too. just want to sit and do nothing or sleep. big hugs hun xxxxxxx

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Icanbeathis2016

Although I haven't posted on the forum in a while I still try to respond to others posts from time to time. I too have these same struggles. Feel free to check the many posts I have. Basically, you are not alone. And now as a way to meet new people all across the world who are just like me via virtually, I hope you will take a look at my new broadcast endeavor merely for people just like us. 😊

I wish us the best....

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