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[Lsuth]

Hello, for the past few years I've been experiencing horrific anxiety, mainly relating to my health and my family members health. I stay up at night panicking about every scenario and how I know I wouldn't cope. I have spells where I'm fine and can reason with myself but times like just now it's a struggle to think of anything else. I try and mention to my family but they tell me I'm being ridiculous and dramatic and don't want to hear it. I've been "triggered" lately as I'm just back from holiday so my current illness I can't shake from my head is skin cancer, and panicking my family members have it. Can anyone offer advice? I'm 23 and am beginning to get seriously depressed about it, it's no way to live.

[philly101]

You're right about one thing that its not a way to live life. Constantly thinking about negative thoughts will drive you crazy. I used to do this all the time, (I still do it from time to time but not as often). You need to mitigate these thoughts and try and focus your thoughts on something positive. When a thought about a certain disease comes up in your mind, try and think of something else. You're 23 years old, chances are there is nothing wrong with you. You have a beautiful life to look forward to and don't think about the negatives but focus on the positives. You will be happier in the end. Good luck.

[Lsuth in reply to philly101]

Thank you so much, I hope it improves.

[philly101 in reply to Lsuth]

It will just stay positive

[menagerie11]

When I have thoughts about illnesses, either regarding my family members or myself, I try to stay calm and let them just float by, telling myself that they are just thoughts and not real. Then I try to do something to help me get focused on reality and the here and now. It could be something as simple as vacuuming or watering plants, doing laundry, pulling weeds, etc. I am also seeing a psychologist who specialises in health anxiety. Cognitive behaviour therapy might help as well, either in person or on-line self-help.

[Lsuth in reply to menagerie11]

Thank you! I went to my doctor today who referred me on to mental health and hopefully they can help with CBT or something!

[menagerie11]

That's great. Health anxiety about ourselves or our loved ones is just one form of anxiety - but there is help for it and all other forms of anxiety. In the short-term, try calm breathing exercises, visualisation of positive things, and focusing on the here and now. There are some good videos on Youtube related to anxiety and mindfulness. Just know that you are not alone and that there are many people with similar challenges. I know a lot of people who had an anxiety disorder and are now free of it...so there is certainly hope for us!