Abusive stepmother

When i was younger, my stepmother was cruel to me. She was verbally and physically abusive. She was like this for around 5 years. My father never knew what she doing to me, because she would do and say things when he wasn't around. She was a manipulative b****. I've been in contact with my dad and step mom til this very day, but I feel like I shouldn't be. I have such hate and anger towards them both. I've been wondering if I should confront my step mom and ask her why she did these things? It eats at me. I just hate acting like nothing ever happened.

[Agora1]

ElliottParker, As long as this eats away at you, so will your anxiety. However, you need to be able to be ready to accept the consequences of going forward. You may lose your dad with this confrontation. Do you have family and friends around you to support you? Another thing that may come into play is the age and health of both your stepmother and dad. If they are up in years and sickly, you might want to just turn the other cheek and let them die in peace.

Whatever you decide, I hope it benefits you. Once things are said, they cannot be taken back. Living with hate and anger in you is not living but festering as it consumes your soul. Think about what you will say to clear your conscious of all that has happened and then go for it if you so choose. It's your life, your decision. My best to you x

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Thank you for your words ☺ I'm not sure what I'm going to do. It'd probably be best to leave it be, but I'm not sure. I just really wish my dad knew how horrible his wife is. How fake she is.

[Jeff1943]

ElliottParker, I'm sorry you went through such a bad time when you were younger because of your stepmother. If your father didn't know it was happening and you felt unable to tell him maybe you're being a bit hard on him by saying you hate him too. But for your own satisfaction and peace of mind I would tackle her about it, it may bring a degree of closure to your anger. I'm afraid I might be inclined to tell her that despite thevpassage of time it's still not too late for you to report her to the police, just to give her a fright and make her realise how aeful she was to you. But whatever you decide, remember it was not your fault this happened but you must achieve closure and draw a line under the past and think only of the future even uf that means breaking with them both.

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I feel bad for my dad, he has depression and other things going on in his life. But the fact is, he was a crappy dad. I want to verbally attack my step mom, just go off and tell her that she's a terrible person. I don't know. I should probably just keep it to myself, but I feel like she wins if I keep it hidden.

[Hidden]

Maybe you should just hit her and let her know how it felt and get some words in there inbetween, then disown them both.

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Haha right? That's what I'd like to do. Deck her in the face. The worst part of it all, is that I have 5 step sisters who didn't get abused by their mom. She had it out for me.

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She needs to see just how it felt. A kid too, disgraceful !!. Will do you the world of good, you'll be able to sit back on a cold winters night and remember the time you gave a her smack for what she did to you, an innocent kid and it will make you feel all warm inside, then you'll laugh to yourself and pour another Vodka and Coke and get pissed.

[daisy-17]

Totally agree with timtim22 am sorry but I would get my own back on her it will make you feel better its eating you up inside. Oh the evil b**** would not brush it under the carpet.