Flying home and bricking it

[HVM98]

So tomorrow I will fly home for a couple of weeks, I'm excited but petrified at the same time. I used to love flying but the last year or two I've become quite scared, not because of the safety aspect as such but more about how I'm going to feel while on board and what if I have an attack or worse, you're so high up and far away from everywhere! It's actually stopped me taking some shorter flights where I know opt for the train or just staying back but living in China there is only one way home that doesn't take the best part of a month or more, anyone else have this fear of flying or being trapped?

I'm also getting quite anxious about how I'm going to be while I'm home too, it's great to catch up with everyone but there's a lot of questions always be fired at you and I feel like lots of pretending to do, friends have also made plans for me and last year when I visited I cancelled most of them as I just didn't feel stable and strong enough to go out, any advise on how to deal with seeing people just once a year and how much/what to say would be appreciated

[arymichele]

Well obviously you don't want to over load every single person you see with your feelings, fears, and anxieties; but with that said I would not just completely hid your feelings either! I use to be that way, just completely putting how I really felt on the back burner and put on the most fake and biggest smile on that I could. That only ended up hurting me more, cause then you feel like you are completely alone and no one cares about you or how you feel. I would recommend to tell, of course your family, but even a few close friends that you can trust. Share with them your struggles, and you will be surprised how supportive most people are. I promise you that it will do you better to let it out rather than holding all of your anxiety in, doing that will only cause you more anxiety!

I wish you the best of luck and safe travels! ❤️

[HVM98 in reply to arymichele]

Thank you for the advise and well wishes arymichele 😊

[Anxietyfree]

Hi i recently flew for the first time in ten years. I used positive visualisations to help with any anxieties. When i first gor on board i felt scared and claustrophobic but i fanned myself to cool down and used calming breathing techniques. I wasnt totally comfortable but i was ok and had a giggle with my travelling partner. Self-hypnosis is a good tool and I use hypnosis downloads by uncommon knowlegde. Afterall anxiety is a bit like self-hypnosis but in a negative way.

All the best

[HVM98 in reply to Anxietyfree]

Thank you Anxietyfree 😊 will give the visualisation techniques a try and look into the self-hypnosis.

[Anxietyfree in reply to HVM98]

I promise you wont think you're a chicken 🤓