I can't stop picking

[Skylar_]

I can't stop picking at my finger and now I'm doing it more often 😩 People point them out and They all like "eww what happen to your finger " ugh to much to deal 😒

[north_oxford]

Hi do you scrape skin of your finger?.

There is a reason why I am asking this.

Regards

A.

[Skylar_ in reply to north_oxford]

Yes like it's hard to say

[Agora1]

Hi Skylar_ what you are doing to your finger is a form of "self injury" due to emotional stress which sounds like It has become obsessive now. Talking with a therapist will help you get to the problems that are causing this form of behavior. It is important you talk this out. My best

[Skylar_ in reply to Agora1]

😔😔 I mean I get put down all the time my dad called me names , like BItch, fuck you , cunt ,it's a lot and stress of them fighting my step mom and my dad is getting worse it's to the point where I can't even think at school like let's say they had a fight and then the next day that's all in my head and I can't think at school ugh

[Agora1 in reply to Skylar_]

Oh Skylar_ I am so sorry. It sounds like you are caught in the middle of your dad's frustrations and anger. Names like that leave a permanent mark in our brains as well as our hearts. I believe that what you hear gets played over and over in your head. You do need to share this with a counselor who may be able to have a family therapy session regarding how this is impacting your schooling and your emotional health. Please seek some help before this goes further than picking on your finger. It definitely is a cry for help. x

[Alun001]

When you start a sentence with I can't, you are reinforcing a perceived idea of hopelessness. Instead when you say. I can't, end the sentence with the word yet!

This keeps options open. Internal speak is important, change the words, changes outcome.

Peace!

[JoMarie5]

I used to bite the skin off my knuckles . I started chewing gum to help stop it . This is was when I was in my early 20's I never even thought that was because of anxiety. I just thought it was a habit but now 9 years later bam I have full blown anxiety 😖

[4myMomAVB]

Has anyone ever suggested Borderline Personality Disorder or Dialectical Behavioural Therapy? Might be something to look into.

[Skylar_ in reply to 4myMomAVB]

What is that

[4myMomAVB in reply to Skylar_]

Has to do with distress intolerance. It and PTSD sometimes go hand in hand. And the therapy deals with those who self-harm and are highly suicidal. Do you have a psychiatrist or family doctor you can talk to?

[Skylar_ in reply to 4myMomAVB]

Nope