I have a question

[scared24]

Does anybody on here get bullied at school or work? I do and was wondering how u dealt with it? I have tried everything and nobody is doing anything to stop it . I am really tired of people bullying me it hurts my feelings . Is there anybody out there that can give me advice I would appreciate it

[Hidden]

Hey there! I worked somewhere where this lady was really awful and nasty to me just because she was older and worked there longer. She wasnt really nice to anyone.. I ended up leaving my job because she was so rude.. Not that I can't stand up for myself but I would never stoop down to her level. I just said okay and walked away or just be nice.. Sometimes being nice back just shows a person that you aren't going to let them bring you down. Hope things start looking up!!

[scared24 in reply to Hidden]

Ok thanks I have an adult who goes to my program and she tells lies to the staff and says lies to the other people in my program and it makes me angry that's why I am asking this question

[smjtty]

EVERY ONE PICKS ON EVERY ONE AS YOU GET OLDER PEOPLE HAVE MORE RESPECT AND IF NOT WALK AWAY THE HELL

WITH THESE PEOPLE

[smjtty]

I MESSED UP MY SELF WHEN I WAS YOUNGER BECASE I COULDENT TAKE IT PLEASE BE STORNG HANG IN THERE FIND TRUE FRIENDS

[Angep Star]

Hi scared24, it seems that no one is listening or willing to help you at this place. I was let's say intimidated when I was younger. I was frightened to stick up for myself too. But I'm not afraid of anyone now, I can stand up for myself. I realised one day that no one is better than me, no matter what they're position is in life. So you get people who think they can talk down to you and intimidate you. There's a very true saying out there that people are only as powerful as you allow them to be!!! Where exactly is this happening to you?

[scared24 in reply to Angep]

at my program and at home

[Angep Star]

I'm sorry I live in uk and not sure what you mean by program? Hope you don't mind me asking?

[scared24]

I go to a special needs program in Billerica Massachusetts so I don't go to college. This person always says lies and my Aunt picks on me all the time so that's why I want to know how people have dealt with it

[Angep Star]

Ok be patient with me so I can understand a bit more! Who is this adult who goes to your programme and tells lies? Does she tell lies about you? Also what kind of things does your aunt say to you? do you live with your parents? Sorry I know that's a lot of questions.

[scared24]

her name is Kristen . Yes she tells lies about me. My aunt accuses me of a lot of things and it is not fair she stresses me out to the point where we don't talk a lot because I don't like how she treats me

[Angep Star]

When you go to your programme there must be someone in charge yes? Have you spoken to them and explained what is happening and how it's making you feel? If there is a problem with Kirsten then someone needs to have a chat with her to try get it sorted out. Also can you speak to your mom about how your aunt is treating you? Has your mom noticed how she is with you?

[scared24 in reply to Angep]

Yes I have told them how I feel and they told me that they can't do anything about it . I live with my dad and he always sticks up for his sister and that really hurts my feelings. He does not get home until 6:30 so when I get home she blames me for everything

[Angep Star in reply to scared24]

I find that really odd that they choose to ignore you are unhappy and say they can't do anything about it!! That's not very productive or helpful to anyone. I think the best thing you can do is if you hear Kirsten telling lies about you then you have to deal with it there and then. You have to ask her why she's saying those things when they are not true? Ask her how she would feel if you did the same to her? I don't know why your aunt is the way she is with you. There could be lots of reasons but why don't you ask her if you can sit down and have a chat with her? Tell her you want to have a good relationship with her and can you talk about things?. Ask her what it is that upsets her so much about you? Then tell her how she makes you feel and you want to work things out with her. That's showing you are being adult and sensible about it. Often you need to take control of a situation to sort things out. It won't get better if you leave things as they are. At least if you try no one can ever say you weren't willing too. As an outsider looking in and of course I only know a little about it then that's what I would do. Talking about things in a civilised manner even when you're feeling upset is the best way to start. Perhaps your aunt is stressed. Talk to her and see what happens. Let me know how you get on x