I got married last year to a great guy but he comes from a very traditional family. I had to be very firm the first few months becauae he had a tendency to be very controlling. i should mention too that two days after the wedding my father passed away and i spiraled into this haze that i wasnt able to climb out of. I havent exactly been miserable but i just find it very hard to be excited about life anymore. Im also struggling with the fact that my husband has taken over every part of my life. He moved in onto my family farm and has basically claimed everything that was my fathers as his own. I have lived here my whole life and am quite capable of doing the work required to keep this place going but he just naturally assumes (and i dont think this is on purpose) that im a helpless female. He is incredibly talented in the trades and makes me feel very inadequate in everything i do and if i do something myself he keeps asking if he can help or he just takes over without asking. I have always been independant and have given up a lot of my dreams for this guy who i love very much but i have moments where im very clausterphobic with this relationship. I dont feel like an individual anymore, i am more or less his sidekick. Nothing is my own anymore. I have considered some night taking off for awhile to just get some breathing room but i know it would break his heart and ultimately lead to some serious problems between us. Advice?