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Extreme back pains/anxiety

Does anyone wake up feeling weird almost everyday. And I have serious back and shoulders pains to where I want to cry everyday. I'm so tired

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Hi Lovely85,  I wake up every  morning feeling terrified, scared to death.  My neck is bad throughout the day from stress.  My chest and upper back seem like the muscles are in a contraction from sleeping.  Most morning I do cry because it gets to be so overwhelming waking up to each day.  I listen to meditation tape before getting out of bed as well as deep breathing.  It really helps.  Wish you well.

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Agora1  your posts could be written by me. They sound soooo much like me. I'm having the same symptoms, pretty much, as you. I'm 67, been suffering most of my life with the fear and panic, anxiety and depression. I cry a lot too. It helps knowing someone else is going through about the same stuff as you are. The chest and back pains almost like a Bear Hug, have been bothering me a lot lately. Plus I have a bad back, hips and legs and always worried about every pain, I'm afraid I won't be able to get around and do the things I need to do. I know this post is supposed to be directed to Lovely85. Sorry I just was panicing this morning (at 4AM ) And your post really helped me  :)  Thank you

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My dear judy,   I'm glad my post helped.  It's heartbreaking but easy to do when you feel the person's pain both physically and emotionally.  When feeling like this please know you are not alone.  Sending you a gentle hug back.  x

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Thank you Agora1  :) 

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Hi Judy....I'm just a few years behind you, but I too have suffered with panic and anxiety as far back as I can remember.   I feel like so many years have been wasted on anxiety.  God blessed me with children and I managed to function through but with so much anxiety and health fears. I always think the worst....I have worked daily at overcoming and have to a point but there are still difficult days.  As we get older physical problems seem to make it harder to accept.  I do understand.  Feel free to write me back...you are not alone.

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Hi  Vsbythesea... Thanks for replying. I have a son, two grandkids  14 and 18. and I have 4 siblings 3 sisters and a Brother. My Husband passed away 8 yrs. ago. My son has RA and other health problems, so I help take care of his home and children and dog, always have. And we talk daily and always say good nite. I talk almost daily with my brother, long conversations. A couple times a month with my sisters, one or the other  :) That's about it. Me and my husband did all our things together, No friends to speak of. We were to busy with family and each other. I really miss him. ALOT of time alone, a lot of pacing the floor. I'm having a really bad time now, I'm sure it will get better soon. but its nice to no other people understand what we're going through.  Some days everything seems soooo overwhelming, I have a big house, and Seven acres to mow and take care of (not a fancy beautifully landscaped place ) Just a nice comfortable Older country home. Lots of work and up keep. the mowing is terrible, with RA and all the back and hip and other pains. Then over to my sons, he has a big house, too and I swear he has other people living in that house, Laundry has to be done daily, must be at least 20 loads a week. Plus cleaning, and cooking, I cook at my house and pack it all up and take it to their house. Plus taking care of the dog so he don't have to spend to much time in the cage. Plus I take care of Ferel cats. The wild ones, the feed me but don't touch me ones, lol. You no the ones people take and then get tired of and they throw them away  :( And I have two strays ann a baby kitty that was abused. I have OCD and soooo much Stress, and I am one of those What If people, what If I can't get up and around this morning to do all the stuff I have to do ???  And many more what ifs !!  So my mornings start out with Fear, Panic , And Anxiety, at 3, 4, 5 AM, And praying and pleading for help,  soon as I start to wake up. now that's enough gloomy talk from me today, sorry I dumped it all on you. Next time its your turn, lol :)  have a good day  <3

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Yes i wake up every morning feeling funny all way in pain with my back arms leg my eye are all way blurry am sick all the time cry a lot to and it really gets me down x

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I have woke up this morning after a bad night of feeling sick with hot nausea flushes and my shoulders and arms feel tingly and weak /heavy, I had a tummy ache yesterday and acid heartburn didn't get much sleep.

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I wake up feeling weird alot.what I do is make a todo list of stuff i gotta the next day before i go to bed then i try to think of that when i get up.i get bad back pain from an injury and perhaps another back issue.i also got a bad arm that got injured I'm having physio so yeah I get what you mean.

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Yes I have the same thing as you. My back hurts and shoulders, and my neck feels stiff. I roll it around softy yet it doesn't do anything. And I also feel like crying because it just feels weird and uncomfortable and I can never get rid of it.

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It feels really wierd to the point  all I want to do is stay in bed

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Yes. You are not alone usually takes me til 12 to sort myself out but some day I just stay in bed and watch TV or something. I have fybromyalgia as well as osteoarthritis.  It maybe worth getting checked for fybromyalgia as it starts in many ways. I would love to bounce out of bed feeling refreshed after a wonderful sleep but I have adjusted my life around my bad mornings. I wish you luck and health.

X

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Wow !! Like hitting the jackpot, all these replys to Lovely85 Sound so much like me, they've really helped me this morning. Thanks everyone, I will need to reread these every morning, maybe that will help me  Through the fear and the Panic  :) 

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I am 68 Judy and began feeling weird about three years ago. I am sure mine comes from anxiety...overthinkiing....concerned about things that will never happened and if they do I can't do anything about it...sad about what I think people are saying about me or what I know they are saying (in other words letting them control my thinking). 

I began feeling detached from my own body, thinking that I am going crazy...losing my mind, feeling that I might lose control over my own speech...yada, yada, yada!

Now I realize that I am not going crazy and that it doesn't matter what people say.  Letting go of people's judgements.  Trying to live a moral life. Thanking God for the good things in my life and they are plenty: a home, clothing, food, able to pay my bills, good friends, my church, car, peace in my home, encouraging radio and television inspirational programs...and people on this website.

When I am concentrating on other things, I am not aware of this depersonalization so much.  I live a normal life. Sleep well (melatonin and Valerian tea helps).

Hope you are feeling better.

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Thank you steadfast, for taking the time to reply. Its nice to hear from people my own age too, I'm surprised that there are so many very young people going through all of this.

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Thank you all for your replys  :)

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Is the pain right in the middle of your back between your shoulder blades? If so you could be suffering from gastro eosophageal reflux which is exacerbated greatly by stress. Try to only have plain water and not to eat for three hours before going to bed. It can also be helpful to raise the head end of your bed (the whole bed end needs to be raised - pillows will not help and may even make it worse). Gaviscon, Rennies, zantac and Ranitidine are all available over the counter nowadays. If any of the above helps it would be worth your while going to the doctor and getting assessed properly.

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Hello there. Yes to all your questions. 

Extremely painful neck that has recently started to give me migraine-like headaches again. Having disc prolapses in my neck makes things worse. Ditto in terms of my lower back.  Stress and severe anxiety make my back and left leg ache intolerably every single day.  If I could cry I would since it would be a welcome release but unfortunately for some reason I can't. 

I would strongly urge you to use a heat pack on your muscles every day and for long as it takes until they loosen up. If you can, get a massage and then self-manage. You could also try a portable stick-on tens machine. They're relatively inexpensive and are available from pharmacies. Factor in some form of stretching EVERY day. A hot bath coupled with a little lavendar should also help. You could also try using a tennis ball to find the trigger points in your back and shoulders if you're unable to get a massage.

Get a ball. Stand with your back against a wall. Place the ball behind your back and then push back harder against the wall. Roll your shoulders and back gently against the wall until you find a trigger point. Roll the ball on that spot GENTLY. Push in for a few seconds and hold that position. Once the pain lessens a little, then push back on the ball in the same spot a FRACTION more. Hold the position. It's probably going to hurt so you MUST, MUST, MUST go gently. The knots in your back muscles need to be loosened.

I hope that I've explained the process but if not, check out YouTube. There's bound to be something there. 

Please don't despair. You CAN ease the pain with some regular work as describef above. Folks who suffer with anxiety/panic generally have really tight muscles. That's why its important to be vigilant and use all the resources you have to try and relax the mind. The body should then follow. Oh yeah, consider Tai Chi. Apparently it's great for stress and calming the mind. Once again, look to YouTube.

Best wishes ✌

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I will try this method thanks

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Just reread this, Thank you so much for the advice Lizbett, I need all the Help I can get. In alot of Pain every day, morning especially, but we just had our first Snow Storm yesterday morning, and I have a 7 acre place and an old country home, to try and take care of. I also take care of Feral cats, and winter in Michigan is soooo hard on them, I try so hard to keep them fed and try to fix up the overhang and barn for them the best I can. but its hard to make them understand to use these areas, they will help them. It all makes me crazy, and they come to my patio Doors to be fed at 5 AM so I have to get up about 3 to be able to get around good enough to shovel a path for them and feed them. Plus my son has RA like me, only his is worse, he has already had to have a Hip replacement. So I try to take care of his home, which is as big as mine. and my Grand kids and their dog. Thats a big part of where all the fear comes in, big time, the worrys and what ifs ..... I can't do EVERYTHING I HAVE TO DO !!!! Anyhow thank you for helping :)

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My absolute pleasure! x

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Thank you all so much. I'm glad that you all responded and I know I'm not alone. This pain has me feeling horrible everyday. But I know one day we will overcome all of this soon. Thanks again

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I wake up everyday feeling out of sorts and I go to bed every night feeling the same way. I'm actually feeling so incredibly anxious right now even as I reply to you. I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I wish somehow they could find a real way to treat anxiety instead of just brushing It Off like it's no big deal.

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I do too Anxiety75.  It makes me very sad to see how many people man, woman, teens, older, younger...shows that anxiety doesn't discriminate. It hits anyone and everyone who is under stress of some sort. 

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Yes I pray everyday that someone could find away to end anxiety fast. 

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Hey I get this I'm only 19 (female) I wake up some morning feeling very strange it makes me want to cry. I also wake aching most mornings. Can this really be anxiety? I feel like I have a condition that's slowly killing me :( 

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Hi, I too wake up every morning with aching/pinching pain across the lower back into the (r) leg.  Lucky I can make it to refrigerator to get the ice pack which I use 15 minutes then I take an extremely Hot Shower and when I get out I feel human-- not perfect, just human.  Have you ever tried this routine?   Staying in bed is a No No for me and only increases the level of pain.  Wishing you well, hope this procedure works.

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No I Haven't....but I will try it now....thanks

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I always wake up with a pain in head, kind of feels like a headache is coming but thn  it goes away right away. Also I ALWAYS wake up with that anxious feeling in my stomach. I'm not sure if it's because as soon as I wake up I start thinking and feeling to see if I have a headache. I used to Google stuff because I was for sure I had a brain tumor and of course a symptom is morning headaches. I've had a CT scan done but still think about it from time to time. 

Anxiety sucks!

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I also have the constant back and shoulder pain, it even goes to the back of head. 

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I have terrible back pain and ribs. I don't know what to do. Went shopping and had a hard time moving

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Did yours go away

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