Scared

[shorty71414]

i live in a world of constant fear and worry my relationship isn't the best we argue a lot and I always get worked up and usually that causes some sign of anxiety my biggest fear is that I'm going to cause my self to have a heart attack or something and I'm scared some one please give me some words of wisdom or help me cope better

[Hidden]

I can totally relate to you. I always get this sense of fear and sometimes FOR NO REASON. its very scary and it makes me think that i will die from a heart attack too.. Anxiety/Panic Disorder Makes you think you have an illness of all KINDS. like today i got all Worked up from nothing. My heart wasnt even beating fast. It was just the sense of my feeling like i was going to DIE from heart failure or something. And iam only 26. Your NOT alone alot of us here get the same thing. BUT WE ARE STILL HERE BREATHING DAY BY DAY. dont feed anxiety with fear. It'll only get worse. I tell my self that everyday and i know i can be hardheaded but iam still alive and ive gotten atleast 10million panic attacks in the last 7years and iam still here. Even tho they have gotten worse the past 2 years but thats anxiety. Iam going to meditate right now so i can have a goodnights sleep. And remember your NOT ALONE someone right now is fighting an anxiety attack but will get through it. Like any other day hope you feel better soon. Xoxo Paulette

[shorty71414 in reply to Hidden]

Thank u I am 26 also it's very hard I need to find something to help calm me down other than medicine like when me and him fight I get so worked up then later on causes me to feel some type of panic attack whether it's me feeling like I can't breathe or my heart feeling like it hurts but thank u

[Mrworrymaster]

I'm better than I once was, but at my lowest I was in a constant cycle of anxiety. I was panicking because I was anxious, and anxious about panicking. I'm still working on it, but I found that I was a very negative thinker. An ache meant I was dying, or had cancer, or a tumor, or a blood clot. If I was too tired I was losing my mind, or going crazy and cracking up. If I was coughing I had lung issues, or some incredibly rare disease. Of course this all made me anxious that other people could notice what I was going through and that made me appear weak and silly....which made me anxious too!

What helped me was re-training myself to think positively. I started with changing my diet and starting an exercise program. Then those aches became a reward for my hard work. Too tired became a side effect of me becoming healthier. I began to feel better internally slowly (I'm still working on this, month 4 of recovery) and made small strides to a more positive outlook. Basically I put the lie to the test. If I was scared I was having a heart attack I would run through the process mentally. Is my chest hurting unbearably...no....do I have sharp pains through my jaw/hands/neck...no...do heart attacks run in my family...no....is my heart beating fast....yes.....is it more likely i'm having an anxiety fit....yes....am I working on my anxiety and being healthier....yes.....can I calm myself down....yes. Of course, this is just what works for me. It's all Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques. It's the only way to overcome anxiety (for those who process anxiety internally as opposed to manic disorder or bi-polar disorder).

Also, you mentioned that your relationship isn't that great. I've been there too. If a relationship isn't right then your body and mind, whether you realize it or not, will fight to push you away from it because it inst' healthy. I was in that bad relationship for 6 years...constant fighting and making up-screaming and loving. When we separated I was devastated. Then about 6 months later the world look more bright and vivid, I didn't realize how depressed and miserable I was until I was separated and not battling for something that was so broken. This was my take, it may not be yours. But if your relationship is toxic it will permeate into all areas of your life.

You're brave for sharing your story and asking for help. I wish you all the best, and I sympathize. I hope I offered you some sort of relief and you find peace.

Regards,

[shorty71414 in reply to Mrworrymaster]

You really did thank u so I appreciate you taking the time to respond to me I know I should probably get out of it but it's very hard we've been together for almost 2 years and known him my whole life I just want to be happy again and I know that's all any of us want..and to make matters worse I'm getting sick and I always worry it's going to turn into phnemonia or something

[Mrworrymaster in reply to shorty71414]

Happy to help. If you should probably get out---you should get out. 2 years turns to more years and more years quickly. Toxic relationships ooze into every portion of your life..but that's ultimately a choice you need to make.

Happiness is a choice, not a result. And stop worrying about severe sickness. While you're spending all that energy worrying about being sick you're lowering your immune system by utilizing all your energy hyping yourself up. "Worrying pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose" -Eckhart Tolle. Worrying is stupid, it's like carrying an umbrella everyday because you're afraid it might rain.

[shorty71414 in reply to Mrworrymaster]

Wow that is a really good way to look at it yea when I went to the Dr like a year ago he said I'm actually quite healthy I'm 26 he said my immune system was really good and people my age should see the Dr every 2 years to get a blood test and checked out he said i can go 3 to 4 years so that made me feel good and I know I don't want to be stuck in a vicious circle of a bad relationship

[Mrworrymaster in reply to shorty71414]

Sounds like you should find comfort with what the Doc said. If you need more reassurance and test though, then go get them. Make sure you're comfortable with the diagnosis that you're ok.

Best of luck with the relationship. I've been there and I know it can be tough. Either way you choose to go is ok, just do what is best for you.

[CL-ROSE]

I would leave that stressful person. Arguments are not healthy. Especially if you fear a heart attack. I would separate myself from that I suffer with Panic and Anxiety disorder and I could never be in a relationship like that I'd rather be alone in peace. I'm sorry your going through this.

I say tell the other person to talk nicely at a low level or leave a note. Fighting is dangerous. CL-Rose have a better day

[kalahari]

Constant fear may be the result of GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) and you will need treatment for that. Speak to a psychiatrist - not a GP - about the problem. S/he may help you to cope.